lexnmike4enomore Posted October 31, 2004 Posted October 31, 2004 Where to start........... There were 3 of us that were real tight. Me Jane and Ashley. Ashley was w/ my brother for a while. Jane went to a bar w/ my brother, my husband and her friend. By the end of the night Ashley was in the bathroom with by brother . she hooked up w/ her best friends BF!!! (Thats not why they stopped being friends) But last night she went out w/ my husband and her friend and my husbands friends. I have a right to a little mad that they went out together right? First of all...why is my BF calling my husband to got a bar ( i had to go away for the weekend) I mean if she can screw our former friend over what makes me think that she wont to that to me? When my husband gets drunk he gets touchy feely. And she turns into a slut. I addressed it,"please don't take my husband into a bathroom with you later. She laughed thinking i was joking and i said "no I'm serious" and she got defensive . I said well if you can do that to Ashley than you can do that to me. Should i have a right to be mad? Should i not have trust in her?
Mr Spock Posted October 31, 2004 Posted October 31, 2004 No, it's not appropriate for your friend to call your husband unless they were separate friends before you two got married. Wether or not she intended to take him into the "bathroom" later or not is debateable, since she got defensive, but chances are she finds him attractive or she wouldn't ask him to be there. Kind of like she perhaps wanted him to be there so she could flirt and get drunk etc. Simply state to your husband you're not comfortable with him hanging out with your friends while you're not there. That way, the onus is on him to practice good behaviour. He can turn your friends down, you don't have to be the harridan riding their backs. He can go out with his own friends. Anyways, try to avoid using the term"slut". She's less of that and more of just a bad friend.
Mr Spock Posted October 31, 2004 Posted October 31, 2004 Oh and hey-drunk or no, a man that truly respected and loved you would try NOT to be touchy feely when hammered. Remember, alcohol often frees us to do the things we only think about.
bluechocolate Posted October 31, 2004 Posted October 31, 2004 I think you have legitimate cause for concern. He can go out drinking with your friends when you're there & if that's the way you would prefer it to be he shouldn't find it very difficult to oblige.
sinkerswim Posted November 4, 2004 Posted November 4, 2004 You have every right to be upset.... Your husband should have never went w/her to a bar without you. Doesnt seem right... Your best friend sounds like she needs attention from any guy she can get a hold of. I would try to have a talk with her and tell her how you feel. I can see if it didnt upset you at all and you completely trusted them both...but in this situation, sounds like both cant be trusted. You better talk things out. Good luck.
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