abhirajsoni Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 (edited) so its my story- i met my girl on orkut 5 yrs ago. we exchanged our no. after 6 mnths of chatting. in starting i was flirting with her but she was serious for me. day passed. and i also felt in love with her coz she cared a lot n loved me so much. but we never proposed each other. after 3 years of this situation, finally one night i proposed to her and she accepted without any delay, everything was going amazing. we were like soulmate and were talking about marriage. we could never imagine any third person in our story. it was like fairy tale. one day on valentine's day i was checking her fb and i was shocked to know that she had a bf before me and she never told me. i was angry but i forgave her when she said that if i told you i would lose you. everything was fine afterwards. but few months later misunderstandings took place. she said that i am possessive now. i was not i cared for her too much. i was always free for her. after one year of relation we finally broke up. she was the one who said that she can't take it anymore. i tried, begged too much. but she didn't listen. she said we are now friends only. after 3-4 months of breakup i got to know that she has someone in her life. she didn't tell me about it. one of her friend told me that. so after that she told me that yes she is in a relationship. i was broken down. only i know how i was feeling that time. i initiated no contact after that. but after 10-12 days i begged again. coz i loved her. she put conditions like we will talk in random days. i accepted. after 2-3 months we were like friends n talked too much. we were addicted to each other voice. the relation was long distance. i used to see her rarely. one day she was crying and called me. she said she has family problem. i took care of her n suddenly she told me that she still has feelings for me. she asked me to call her in the night when she finished talking to her bf. i accepted. we used to talk like this for some days. but some days later we fought and after that we didn't talk. again it was me who initited contact. stupid me. then she put conditions again that we won't talk in the night. i mean whenever she called me, i gave my time but whenever i called she gave excuses like she was busy. she used to make me jealous by talking abt her new bf that how nice he was. but she used to give me mixed signals. yesterday i wanted to talk to her but she didn't responded. she said she is busy. so today morning i text her that i can't take it anymore. and don't ever call or text me. i am in deep depression. i used to live a rocking life. but now i am only sad. i don't understand what to do. i love her. want her back. i don't want to talk to any other girl Edited August 8, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
lukekarts Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 You have got to cut contact. She is stringing you along as a 'backup guy' and it is totally messing with you. If you cut contact, 1 of 2 things will happen, and irrespective of which, you have no influence on this outcome: 1. She will realise what she is missing and she will come and find you. 2. You will both realise it is over and be able to cleanly move on. It is more than likely #2; but while things stay as they are you are just getting messed up by the whole situation.
Author abhirajsoni Posted August 1, 2013 Author Posted August 1, 2013 yes its messing up with me. its me who always initiated contact again. but this time i am not going to contact her. and yes i was the backup guy. she told me that you are the one who will accept me if i leave him (the new guy). i lost my self respect. sometimes she even said f** off and get lost type words. but i was calm coz i love her. hope i will never contact her again.
Author abhirajsoni Posted August 7, 2013 Author Posted August 7, 2013 one week over of no contact.. update- she blocked me on whatsapp..but 2 days ago she unblocked me and put this status- life is too short, will surely meet again. i know its for me but i dont know intentions behind it.
Chi townD Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 I hate the internet sometimes.... Dude, you didn't have a girlfriend...you had a penpal. Let her go. Find someone that actually lives around you that you can actually take on a date. Hold hands with, someone you can PHYSICALLY TOUCH!! Someone you can kiss good night to every night if you want. I think you'll find that kind of relationship more fulfilling.
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