Running Man Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 When you agree about having an "Open Marriage" did HIV, Herpes, Cold Sores and Genital Warts enter the picture as possible risks. The only thing an "Open Marriage"seemed to open is exposure to lies deceit and unfaithfulness to the relationship. As a bonus you get to taste the D%^K of another man when you kiss your girl. What is the benefit of having this sort of relationship? If you sleep in a bed with dogs don't complain about the fleas.
road Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 "So maybe I brought this on myself yes, i see that. The thing is I don't see a way to get beyond it if she insists this is the truth. " Yes you brought this on. You did not mate protect your WW. You sent the message that I don't value you. I am willing to risk your health and get a disease. Known fact OM want to ride bare back so the additional devaluing of your WW because you allowing the OM to bang your WW said you were not only willing to let the OM ejaculate inside you sent the message that you were willing to risk the OM knocking up your WW and raising the and paying for the OC. This is why open marriages fail. The WW meets a OM that she wants to do her husband says no. At this point your value in your WW eyes is non existent. She does the OM behind your back. Even happens when the you are present when she first does the OM. Because the OM does not want to share WW. He tells WW this. WW likes being valued by the OM. The WW then says lets do play time alone. If she can't get the BH to go along then WW does it behind your back. Eventually the WW stops having sex with the BH, starts an affair, leaves BH for OM. How do I know this. Seen this story played out more times then I can remember. "She did admit six weeks later she didn't let me know before or during cause she was afraid of how she may react and how I'd deal with that that. We had already talked about this many times and she never expressed any concern." Total damage control excuse. You were ok with her being done by an OM. You told her no to the one she wanted to do. Her concern about your reaction to her being banged by an OM had no basis. It was what you wanted too see. She was denying your desire to watch her do an OM. "She later goes on to say if they had screwed she'd have had no problem telling me since this was our fantasy thing anyway. Anyone find this completely contradictory???" No problem? How would WW think that there would be no problem with WW banging an OM that you did not want her to bang? Ask WW that and get back to us. "She says it didn't seem important to tell me since "nothing really happened."" She had no intent to have sex with the OM? Frist time WW called the OM to come over and get laid but you were home. I bet when the OM heard you were there he said call me when your BH is not home. Yet she invites the OM over to the house when you are not there. When a WW has previously asked to come over and gives him another call to come over and this time says to the OM my BH is not home. This OM is coming over to cum with your WW. Nothing really happened? Is that nothing really happened because your WW has breast implants? So the OM did not really play with her chest it was non real playing? WW did oral on the OM. Do you still believe that Clinton did not have sex with that woman. Ask WW if that the OM's sausage being in her mouth is really nothing. OM bending your WW over and he orgasmed by just looking at your WW with her but in the air? Really? Ask your WW why you can not believe how the OM finished. "Also, FYI... she argued relentlesslly to my face it wasn't cheating. Since we talked about this and I supposedly said if she had to b 1 on 1 first then it was "ok." I NEVER EVER said it was ok! The only way that even could've been a very remote possibility is if she had told me what was happening first. She had to know that!! " If the a WW can not defend herself with the truth they will not hesitate to lie to justify what she did. Even if you did agree to 1 on 1 the first time. Which I do not believe your WW on this. You told her that she was not allowed to do that OM. Ask your WW that and get back to us. Ask WW to address all the points that I raised and let us know her responses. "It's not so much I need to hear all the details, it's that now I've been most likely lied to on one level or another and She can't say anything now that will seem truthful. 1.) stick to her story that is full of inconsistencies. 2.) Claim she's coming clean about everything and it all will come across like she's telling me what she thinks I need or want to hear. I of course don't. Though I'm not sure how to ever get past what seems to be blatant lies/stories. HELP!! We are starting therapy but thats very slow going and I/we may not be able to last that long. I'm turning to self meds, can't sleep, and have become violent. Not to her.:o"
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