BlueLP Posted October 31, 2004 Posted October 31, 2004 So I've been broken up with the girl I thought i was going to marry for a couple months now, and I'm to the point now where I'm getting interested in other girls again (nice to finally be there). The problem is, it seems like all the girls I get a crush on already have significant others. And the couple that are interested in me I don't like more than friends. Damn the mid-twenties... Tonight for Halloween I hung out all night with this girl who's engaged, but expresses some worries about getting married. From what I hear, it doesn't sound like the guy is quite right for her. Of course I don't know it all, but if I was the guy, I would not want to hear the stuff coming out of her mouth. I have liked her since I originally met her, she's my type (cute & sweet). We seem to really hit it off and I think she had a really good time with me tonight. Now, I always hated when guys stepped in on a girl while she was "confused" about me and her. I thought that it wasn't fair, and promised myself I would never do that to another guy should I be in that position. Sometimes people get confused and need to figure it out without outside pressure, it's easy to be prince charming when you are making a fresh impression on someone. What can compete with that "infatuation" stage? But here I am, with a girl I like and am very compatible with who probably could be pulled away from her fiancee if I made the effort. She seems about ready to go into that whole "I need to have fun and see other guys" mode that many people here on Loveshack always talk about. Am I being too selfish to think about doing so? And do I really want a girl who can be pulled away from her fiancee? I'm thinking that all signs point toward not doing so, but I have had such a good time with her, she's definitely the type who I could be with for a while. Any advice?
romanticrealist Posted October 31, 2004 Posted October 31, 2004 And do I really want a girl who can be pulled away from her fiancee? I don't think that it's just that she can be pulled away (implying mabye she isn't very loyal, easily distracted, etc...), but if ya'll got together, she might just be using you because she's confused and ready to experiment. If she's the kind of girl you could see yourself being with for a long time and she dumps you when she's done being confused, that just leaves you screwed again!! Oh, just curious, how long did you and your ex date? I dated someone for three years and thought we would be married, too. Honestly, it took me a whole year+ to completely get over him. I did date someone a few months later, but I still had strong feelings for my ex. Take it slow. I know a couple of months feels like a long time to be alone when you're used to being in a relationship, but maybe time alone could be good
Author BlueLP Posted October 31, 2004 Author Posted October 31, 2004 Is that my conscience speaking? Close enough. Thanks, I just need the backup opinions. Still a bit typsy from tonight, so nice to hear that I was good to resist the temptation. Don't want to be that guy!
Author BlueLP Posted October 31, 2004 Author Posted October 31, 2004 We dated for a year and a half (although we always said it felt like about 5 years compared to our other just as long relationships)...and it's been almost 3 months since we have broken up. I definitely agree with you on the taking it slow part. I've enjoyed recently being alone, because I realize after my last relationship how close I was to being with someone permanently. And that's great with the right person, but there is so much to be said for being comfortable alone. The single life is fun, and it's nice knowing that you don't need someone else to make yourself happy It just gets confusing again when you're happy single, but you find that you like someone again.
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