Tropi_cali510 Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Ok so this is my story... So today i was talking to this girl who ive liked and known for about 3 months. we've already hit it off pretty good, i mean we had sex the first time we met, and multiple times after that in the 3 month period. We recently spent the night together(sex,sex,sex) and hung out the day after, then a couple days later hung out again. It started off a once a week type thing, then like a couple times a week and so on. But I work full time, and she goes to school full time, so are schedules are pretty darn busy even though we've made time for one another. But today i guess for some reason she said something to me when we were on the phone and i didn't take it well, so when she said i miss you, i just said bye, and then she hung up. I've told her multiple times a hate when people in general hang up on me, so i turned my phone off for a couple hours. So then I turned it on and called her and her phone was off, I texted and even left her a message. So she finally turned her phone on about 5-6 hours later, and then all of a sudden told me "we're moving too fast".of course shes at school and cant talk til later. Now im in shock lol. I really started to like this girl and she really liked me. But when she told me this i have so many thoughts in my head its crazy. First thought, ok i think your pmsing cause she just took a day after pill/ contraceptive yesterday. Second thought ok maybe we are moving too fast, Now im stuck and i dont know what to do. whater your people thoughts on"we're moving too fast" i take it as she wants to f*** other dudes, but i know it can also mean she needs to focus on herself.
Phantom888 Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Maybe you guys are moving too fast. You guys have sex and never really tried to get to know one another. Maybe she just wants to focus on her goals. You guys sound really young, so there must be goals you all seek besides having sex all day.
Author Tropi_cali510 Posted July 31, 2013 Author Posted July 31, 2013 Maybe you guys are moving too fast. You guys have sex and never really tried to get to know one another. Maybe she just wants to focus on her goals. You guys sound really young, so there must be goals you all seek besides having sex all day. I feel like we did get to know eachother, but then maybe the first time we kicked it having sex wasn't the best thing too do even though it felt great. im 21 and shes 20 and we do both have goals were trying to accomplish but i swear pms made this **** worst cause lastnight, everything was fine! but i just dont wanna ruin something that was great, and im afraid of we're moving too fast is gonna mess things up what happened to going with the flow!
Gottabestrong Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 Sounds to me like she was hurt when you replied with 'Bye' after she said "i Miss you" and then switched off your phone and did not call her back. She might feel rejected and as a consequence want to take a step back now. My advice if you care about this girl and don't want to 'slow down'? Talk to her, honestly and affectionately. Tell her you care about her, she makes you happy and you don't want to stop seeing each other, but you will give her space if that is what she wants. If she then decides that she does not want to slow down after all, it probably means that she was hurt and maybe hormonal. If she doesn't, she might have been feeling this way for a while. Either way, if you care for her, next time say: 'I miss you too". Good luck! 2
Author Tropi_cali510 Posted August 1, 2013 Author Posted August 1, 2013 Sounds to me like she was hurt when you replied with 'Bye' after she said "i Miss you" and then switched off your phone and did not call her back. She might feel rejected and as a consequence want to take a step back now. My advice if you care about this girl and don't want to 'slow down'? Talk to her, honestly and affectionately. Tell her you care about her, she makes you happy and you don't want to stop seeing each other, but you will give her space if that is what she wants. If she then decides that she does not want to slow down after all, it probably means that she was hurt and maybe hormonal. If she doesn't, she might have been feeling this way for a while. Either way, if you care for her, next time say: 'I miss you too". Good luck! first off she told me she was gonna talk to me later, now i waited all night for her to call me and talk, no call, called her , her phone is off. left a couple messages and text, but really is she just playing games with me now ?
Ed the 3rd Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 Sorry I don't understand why you said bye after she said I miss you.... That was a dick move unless I'm missing something. If I was a chick I'd be pissed.
Author Tropi_cali510 Posted August 1, 2013 Author Posted August 1, 2013 prettu much just got off the phone with her, and she told me she just needs her space, and to focus on school. She said she still likes me, and will miss me, and will hit me up but just not everyday like im use to, i guess i just got use to texting,calling,facetimeing her 24/7. hopefully itll make our relationship better, and she figure out life isnt the same without talking, or texting me. Just dont want her to find someone else cause what we had was something good
Author Tropi_cali510 Posted August 1, 2013 Author Posted August 1, 2013 Sorry I don't understand why you said bye after she said I miss you.... That was a dick move unless I'm missing something. If I was a chick I'd be pissed. yeah pretty much, but the thing is i told her i missed her like 10 times before that, but that put the cherry on top i guess and now were not talking like we were but we were moving way too fast
sdraw108 Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 But today i guess for some reason she said something to me when we were on the phone and i didn't take it well, so when she said i miss you, i just said bye, and then she hung up. I've told her multiple times a hate when people in general hang up on me, so i turned my phone off for a couple hours. What the? Firstly, your story makes no sense. You said bye; isn't that normally the time when people hang up the phone? Secondly, you come across as if you're 15, not 21. You hate when people hang up on you, but you think it's ok to turn your phone off in retaliation? And then you think she's playing mind games when she doesn't pick up your calls for a few hours, when you just did the exact same thing? I'm betting the thing that she said to you which you "didn't take so well" which caused this whole episode, was something petty. You need to grow up. Seriously. Before you screw up a relationship which you actually care about. 1
Author Tropi_cali510 Posted August 1, 2013 Author Posted August 1, 2013 Ok now that I've talked to her she wants space, so I'm giving her the space, but now I can't stop thinking about her, I work 40 hours a week and I'm trying to stay busy this shouldn't go on for a while right ?! Also deleted her number out of my phone so she has to hit me up, wrote her number down but will not use it because she needs space, I feel like moving on but I really wanted a relationship with her and I like her alot so I'm sticking around for a little while dont know how long this will last
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