Col1 Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I met a 38 year-old lady last weekend. She's a blue-eyed attractive thin blond. We talked for 15-20 minutes in person. I got her number. I called her that night and we also texted. A few more calls have taken place since Sunday. A little flirty, but mostly about the get to know you info. We are planning a first date for this Friday night. She divorced a year ago after 19 years of marriage (teen pregnanacy forced her to marry young - they held on until their child graduated high school). Today we became Facebook friends, and I got a chance to read her FB timeline posts. Over the last two months, her FB timeline posts are similar to these: + I want someone in my life who won't give-up but no one is out there for me. + Somewhere there is a guy out there who will treat me like a princess and spoil me. + Why do guys always leave? + You have to want love so much you'll fight for it until your dying breath. I want a guy who believes this. + I want a guy to fall so deeply for me that there is no one else who matters on earth. + Guys say "I won't hurt you," and then prove they are liars. There are other similar personal thoughts on her timeline page. About one of these kinds of posts every three days. Her FB friends don't comment on these posts. Her FB posts scare me! That is a lot of pressure to read - especially since we haven't even had a first date. I am open to your feedback on how to proceed.
forgetmenot75 Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I'd proceed with cautious. She seems to have some baggage. You might not want to get involved with someone with such a negative perspective. She is been hurt in the past and I don't think she's over it, since she keeps talking about this.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 38 year old woman who uses facebook as her journal? That is a bad enough thing in itself. The posts are just the icing in the cake.
henderson14 Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Facebook..... It kills someones chances of getting hired or a date every second. Just think. Thats the same profile the HR girl is looking at when deciding whether or not to call her in for a second interview.
aussietigerwolf Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I know someone like this and she's not over her douche bag ex.
Woggle Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 100 bucks says if you did treat her the way she says she wants she dump you so fast your head would spin.
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Well...sounds like she's been through the grinder since her divorce but what's most unsettling is that she posts this for the world to see, and for potential suitors that she hasn't even met...yikes. This woman's going to have some serious issues beyond this, not sure If you're in the market for playing prince charming and proving yourself beyond of what the other guys didn't do. If she gets wrapped up into you and this "relationship", the whole world is going to revolve around you and her expectations will be unrealistic, idealistic, and most of all needy. If you're truly "available" and seeking a long-term relationship I'd move on to someone more emotionally stable, If you're unavailable and just looking to screw around in the grey area, then you'll be right down the alley of what she likely typically dates. If you're a truly "nice guy" or mr. "I can fix you with love and support you've always needed!", you'll probably get burned out of this deal.
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