MrCastle Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 This is not about race. I think race and culture are two extremely different things that often get intertwined on here when they are entirely separate entities. When I say culture, I mean lifestyle. I mean fashion sense, similar views, similar interests, etc. Are you more attracted to the culture you're apart of, or do you feel more attracted to different ones? Does it rank higher than physical preference? For example, I prefer curvy women. But if the choice was between a curvy woman who was of the ghetto hip hop culture (not that all hip hop is ghetto but I mean someone who is very much immersed in the street lifestyle and listens predominantly to club rap music) or a skinny hipster, I would rather date the skinny hipster. No matter how much more awesome I thought the other girl's body was, I would relate to the hipster better and we'd have more in common. There are times however, where their lifestyle is so opposite to mine that I can't help but be attracted to them. I believe opposites can attract short term, just not long term. So, I do like to dip into other cultures every now and then to become more open minded and cultured myself, I just feel more comfortable when it's someone of the same culture as myself. Where do you guys stand on this? Do you go by physical preference first and whoever fits that mold is the one you go after? Or does culture supercede all?
Treasa Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I'm an equal opportunity dater. My only requirements: -Doesn't smoke/not into drugs -Has to like animals -Isn't as freaking dumb as a brick -Likes sex a LOT 2
RedRobin Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Northern european and scandinavian They dont have problems with strong women... you can be feminine and still kick *ss. Gotta love that. Also a lack of double standards... 1
GI_Joy Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I'm from New England and I deplore the guys around here. I find myself drawn to the Southern/Country culture, sweet, moral, chivalrous gentlemen who appreciate the simple things and are very handy.
crosswordfiend Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Culture definitely trumps pure physical appearance, although culture can be inferred by dress (ie, skinny jeans, tattoos, stiletto heels etc...) so the concepts can be hard to disentangle. Personally, I'm more into the artsy set. I'd take an overeducated hipster over someone more button-down and corporate any day. Thankfully, women of my preferred body type exist in every realm. 1
ThaWholigan Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I'm a chameleon - I appreciate many different cultures. I was brought up by a mostly afrocentric mother, and my father is also the same, so I grew up in that culture. Since then, I've been involved in rap/ghetto culture, indie/scene culture, college, hipster, rock - you name it. 1
Treasa Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Oh, I AM super attracted to black guys with English accents who perform and like to watch pro wrestling.. Nothing too specific, though. Right now, though, I have my eye on sweetkiwi, so whatever her 'culture' is. 4
crosswordfiend Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Northern european and scandinavian They dont have problems with strong women... you can be feminine and still kick *ss. Gotta love that. Also a lack of double standards... There is a great deal of variability within Northern European/Scandinavian communities. Do you mean to say that any member from that set will do? Or are you confounding this with race and ethnicity?
T3h L337 d00d Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I don't see race and culture as different things. Western European culture is my favorite by a long shot, the shining light of the entire history of man. Not exactly a fan of a lot of it's current leftist trends though. 2
forgetmenot75 Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I'm attracted to brown eyes/brown hair, non muscular, caucasian type of guys. Despite this, I'm usually attracted to guys who are not much into me, and I have to chase them (yeah, I'm being honest, unfortunately that's the truth). I'm not attracted to other cultures other than American, it's funny indeed because I am myself from another culture. Weird, huh?
forgetmenot75 Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I don't see race and culture as different things. Western European culture is my favorite by a long shot, the shining light of the entire history of man. Not exactly a fan of a lot of it's current leftist trends though. Gosh, I tend to avoid those. Hate the English and French accent ugh.
white Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 For me it always trumps appearance. I'm an unusual person with a lot of opinions and attitudes that differ from the norm. While I tolerate a lot I don't like day to day from those around me, I try not to compromise in relationships, especially as I age. Don't see why I should. If I can't find someone that shares my idiosyncrasies there's really no point to the idea of a relationship; what can I share with them. Mostly it's about what I call intelligence. I don't give a **** if you can wave a degree, but you better not watch talent show TV or soaps. I don't care if you can do brain surgery, but you better be able to tell me about the last book you read, and it better not be 50 ****ing shades of grey. I don't care if you make 10 or 100 thousand a year, or none, but you better not live to buy the latest phones and trends and a new car every 3 years. Etcetera. As long as certain fundamentals are there I'm interested, but the closer to my values a woman I meet is, the better. I've tried the other way. It doesn't work for me. I really don't like coming to despise everything my significant other stands for as I get to know them better. Puts a damper on things. I'm not even kidding here; I once got a boner just from a woman I just met revealing unbidden she was a fan of a number of authors happening to be favourites of mine. That's probably a genuine diagnosable issue, but it demonstrates how important sharing things like that are to my sense of attraction. Some men turn erect at a perky pair of breasts. I do it over literary discussion. 2
Keenly Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 You have completely stumped an eloquent writer. I have absolutely no idea how to put the behaviors and mannerisms or culture behaviors into words. Maybe because haven't experienced anything in my life other than modern day Americana.
Author MrCastle Posted July 31, 2013 Author Posted July 31, 2013 I don't see race and culture as different things. Western European culture is my favorite by a long shot, the shining light of the entire history of man. Not exactly a fan of a lot of it's current leftist trends though. I think there's a difference in the sense that...hispanic is my heritage/background, but American is my culture. My family and I were born here in New York, grew up in a middle class neighborhood. I eat burgers and heros, not rice and beans. Can't speak spanish to save my life. I cannot identify with the Puerto Rican culture. I identify with American culture. A red blooded, American male. That's how I see myself. 2
Treasa Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 You have completely stumped an eloquent writer. I have absolutely no idea how to put the behaviors and mannerisms or culture behaviors into words. Maybe because haven't experienced anything in my life other than modern day Americana. Or because you're high. 1
T3h L337 d00d Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 When I said Western culture specifically I see the height being the United States in it's infancy back when there still was a "Wild" West. I'm not to proud of the current state of our nation or western philosophy as whole with things like feminism just to give one example of many. I link Western culture to Europeans ethnically. 1
Negative Nancy Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I don't see race and culture as different things. Western European culture is my favorite by a long shot, the shining light of the entire history of man. Not exactly a fan of a lot of it's current leftist trends though. Very true.
Star Gazer Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I'm into the skiing-surfing-mountain biking-REI and thrift store-shopping-outdoorsy but still wears cologne-body of a quarterback-deliciously funny culture. 3
Treasa Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I'm into the skiing-surfing-mountain biking-REI and thrift store-shopping-outdoorsy but still wears cologne-body of a quarterback-deliciously funny culture. I think your response would be more helpful if you weren't so vague and non-descript. 4
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I am open to different cultures, but I tend to have a type I have more in common with. Artsy/hipsters My man now is an interesting mix. He is artsy, with a very expensive taste fashion wise, music wise enjoys indie and hip/hop, and is big on travel, living simply, healthy, and green. I wouldn't say he is a mainstream hipster that most picture, but moreso the real deal. Dating within the same culture is far more important than looks, people within the same culture tend to have more of the same beliefs and interests. I have also dated country types, jocks/sports fans, and clean cut preps... They were fine too, just not as strong of a connection as I have with artsy/hipsters. 2
Woggle Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Italian or Latin Women. They know how to actually have fun and enjoy life instead of being addicted to drama constantly.
Phantom888 Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I didn't even know I had a preference until after my divorce. It turns out my preference is curvy, blonde, blue/green eyed, intelligent Caucasian American woman. I don't mind brunettes, but coincidentally I have only dated blondes after my divorce...except one red-head, and 2 brunettes. I don't prefer "foreign" cultures because I find there is a communication gap. Ironic since I am Chinese.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I didn't even know I had a preference until after my divorce. It turns out my preference is curvy, blonde, blue/green eyed, intelligent Caucasian American woman. I don't mind brunettes, but coincidentally I have only dated blondes after my divorce...except one red-head, and 2 brunettes. I don't prefer "foreign" cultures because I find there is a communication gap. Ironic since I am Chinese. That isn't what he is asking... 1
Phantom888 Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 That isn't what he is asking... Wait I thought OP was asking what type/culture we are into with respect to a dating partner?
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