mysunflower Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Me and my bf are going very well with each others. I love him and I love spending times with him. The boy gives me the feeling of being so safe and warm everytime he is around. And he always thinks I am the most loving woman he's ever met. He always praise me with his friends and mother (I think his mother likes me too) . We've been together for a few months, and he started to think of building a family together with me (that's what he told his mom and all friends). I do enjoy the feeling of being loved, and I love taking care of him too. I love help him cleaning his apartment, cooking for him, doing his laundry, going places with him. But... I enjoy living alone and visit each other every now and then. I got problem of maintaining the interest for a man if I spend too much time with him. It was proved with all of my ex-bf, I was always the one who broke up with them first after a year of dating and things started to be more serious. I just couldn't stay with a man for too long, I started some crazy things and made some excuses to break up with them. Although I really like the ideas of getting married. I know this man is the right man for me, and he loves me so much, but recently I feel like I just want to be single again. Do I have commitment phobia ? What can I do to overcome it. I start to feel afraid now, since I'm reaching my thirty soon, and don't want to end up dying alone.
GI_Joy Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I personally think that it's perfectly normal to feel like that from time to time, it just seems like you prefer to take things slower than the guy which is ok. Try being vocal about how you feel about the relationship so he would know to slow down to your pace as well. I think a few months is too soon to want to start a family together with someone, so it's normal for you to feel like you'd want to take it back a bit. You enjoy your independence and that's great. What do you mean by "starting crazy things"? It's important to pace the relationship and not get too carried away in the beginning so one doesn't lose interest so quickly.
Woop1337 Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 (edited) You don't have commitment phobia. You simply lose interest in the men your with. Anyone can get a woman, it's keeping them, is the hard part. Edited July 31, 2013 by Woop1337
Phantom888 Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Do I have commitment phobia ? What can I do to overcome it. I start to feel afraid now, since I'm reaching my thirty soon, and don't want to end up dying alone. Don't think you have commitment phobia. You just have not found the right man. When you do, you will want to marry him. It's kinda strange. You broke up with your exs because they were not THE ONE for you. If you even have doubts about this current BF, then he's really not the one you want to marry.
Phantom888 Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 If somebody was talking about making a family with me after a few months dating then I'd be a commitmentphobe, too. I disagree. When you find the right person for you, you will automatically want to make future plans, even if it's only been a few months. If you can imagine being with this person 10 years from now, and still be happy, then you are on the right track. My woman and I have been together for a bit over 2 months. We have much experience in relationships, as we have both been married before, and dated for years after our respective divorces. We are planning a future together, and we are likely to be married within 2 years. When you know you've found THE ONE, every doubt disappears.
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