How to get over pain after knowing some1 cheated on you?Or mostly likely betrayed you

[LovedwayULie]

I agreed to the idea of WE - getting to know each other. I've met this guy online and chatted almost every night while I'm working. He is a businessman, prominent guy - looks respectable and very professional but he has a sense of humor after all. I got to know him for the many months, but the communication wasn't that continuous because of his work. I'm being confident to the idea that he's interested in me and I'm just taking of my time knowing him because had still my doubts. He make plans, I often just said Ok, ok all the time. We teased each other, he's fine, he look good for me, he looks so honest all the time because he just keep talking about his work, busy at work, business travels. Until that one day, he said he wanted to meet me in person, and I just said Ok, how will gonna do that? He wanted to talk to me in person, have dinner, get to know each other and yes - there's a rule - we won't do things that we won't both agree on. But things changed before we met, the tease became serious, he acted like a bf so I teased him about that and he asked don't you want to be my gf? We both know we'll gonna end up like that.

 

So I don't know if it was serious or clear or official, I just bite the idea and said yes to him. So to make the story short - We did meet in my country, had dinner, I slept with him, had sex with him for 2 nights and we split our ways without seeing each other because he had a meeting to attend to in the city. After the ''DINNER'' meeting, things changed, I didn't mostly hear anything from him. He will messaged me once a week and that's it - long more weeks, and nothing I heard from him. So I made some research with a help of my friend and found out he was divorced last 2005 and remarried again last January, 3 months before our meeting. I was a bit shocked, and then felt betrayed because we started chatting since last year, and he wasn't been honest after all. He messaged me last night, I confronted him and he didn't deny anything. He was sorry and promise not to bother me anymore and I told him Eat your ****ing sorry and go to hell!

 

If you ever experience like this - won't you make it as a big deal? How would you handle the situation? Will you just move on and don't bother him for anything anymore? Or make trouble or what?

 

Apologize for my English - if it doesn't sounds correct.

[CA2TN4Love]

I would tell his wife, but that's just me. She deserves to know what a scumbag she married.

 

He married three months before he met you. I'm sorry, but it sounds like he only had one thing on his mind, and now that he's gotten it, he's lost interest. If he intended to develop a real relationship with you, he wouldn't have had a wedding right before he met you.

 

I'm sorry that you're going through this, but cut the guy off at the knees. Cease contact. Or, give him one final piece of your mind, and then cease contact. In the future, do your homework first, prior to getting involved with a stranger. Google is your friend. It could save you some heartache.

 

Hang in there.

[justwhoiam]

So, did you tell his wife?

[LovedwayULie]

No I did not tell anything to her. I let the Karma handle the situation for me. I believe in it.

[justwhoiam]

He might do that serially. It makes me puke. The wife should know. Did you get tested? Did you use condoms?