Over my ex, but him interested in other girls is hard to see..

[Elizabeth18]

So here's the story (sorry it's long): We dated almost a year and a half and had a pretty good relationship. We broke up at the end of April. He wanted to since I was unhappy towards the end because he wasn't a good bf. He said he wasn't ready for a relationship and got into it for the wrong reasons. He didn't want one and won't until college. I liked him so much and even tho I deserved to be treated better, I couldn't break up with him. He even said he thought I deserved to be treated better than what he could give me.(Never saw each other due to him being busy and tired and couldn't make me one of his priorities). I treated him like a freaking prince. He's 17 and I'm 18. He claimed he still liked me when we broke up but idk if that was a lie. It seemed like the break up wasn't hard for him since he moved on so fast unless he felt like he had to. He said he thought about it a few days before we did so that's why he wasn't upset when we did it.

 

Well he does volleyball and this girl we know does it too. So while we dated they would talk about that and I felt like he kinda liked her. He never acted on it tho. Recently they've connected and she said they stayed up until 5 a.m. talking and he sat next to her in church (he wouldn't for me towards the end). I don't have lovey feelings for him but I get a little jealous/upset when I see how much they talk and flirt. He said he wasn't gonna date in high school so idk if he really does like her but I think he does. Maybe it's all new and exciting for him like it was when he first talked to me? It sucks seeing him have eyes for someone else when that used to be me. I used to be friends/good acquaintance with this girl but then we drifted when she started acting like she was all that.

 

I sometimes wish we didn't date because then we wouldn't be here and I could enjoy him and flirt with him like the other girls do. Our relationship is ruined. I hate how he acts around me. Why it upsets me the most I think is that since he said he wouldn't have a relationship in high school, I got the mentality he wouldn't like anyone after me. I knew it'd happen but it's just hard to see him have eyes for someone else. Especially this girl. Even tho he was a douche he was a decent guy with good morals and it sucks to not be the one talking to him. I hate that she thinks she's a big deal talking to him since he's pretty known at my church. I hate how no one saw the jerky side that I saw. I hate how I fell for a boy when I needed a man. I've let go of this silly boy but still feel bad seeing this after 3 months of being apart. Ugh advice?

 

 

Also, he flirted with this other girl in front of me a few days after we broke up. His sister said he liked her. I was upset on how fast he could get over me. So I assume it was either a rebound crush (or to get back at me since he thought I flirted with others after we broke up ) or he liked her a bit while we dated. I think it was the second. He liked the attention. And we were each other's first bf/gf.

Edited July 31, 2013 by Elizabeth18

[Sleepwalk]

Amen to what love said.

 

You are trying to force yourself into feeling something that you don't actually feel right now,into percieving things how you actually wish you would percieve them now.You are trying to find reasons to why he was so wrong in so many ways when there was a "we" between you two,yet every path in your story leads to him.You see,you can try to lie to yourself,to get yourself over things,you can lie to us,but this story you told right here,tells something totally different about the whole way you are feeling things.If you don't need him,he should be no influence over you.You should get used to the fact that you either are with him,accept him,and deal with jealousy,or take him as a normal friend,or just as thin air.

 

You seem to be upset about this.Maybe you are right about your feelings,maybe you just want things explained,on why are you feeling in such a way,you might be confused,I don't know.Though,a little bird told me,this might be a premature breakup

[flitzanu]

if you don't want to see him talking to other girls, then you shouldn't be trying to hang out with him.