Angry bird Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I'm sitting here thinking, why go back. I gave him all the love that I had, above and beyond what was reciprocated, and he showed not an ounce of compassion when he broke it off with me. He was cruel and hurtful. And I sit here pinning over someone like him? What exactly had he done to deserve any of the love I had given to him? I'm seeing that this relationship had more to do with my choices and my self esteem. I want him to want me back, for my egos sake. But, not being with him, opens me up to meet someone 100% better.
Chi townD Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 There you go! Just look at it as you are one more heartbreak away from the person you are truly meant to be with. 1
Legatus Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 He hasn't done anything to deserve it. You are pinning over him because you cared and you had feelings and emotions. He hasn't had a decency to even show them back to you.. You'll boost your ego when you'll find 5 new guys and you will have to choose one of them! 1
daftpunk Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Well personally, my ex reciprocated love and affection in a way that I'd never experienced in all my 26 years. Even now that I've been dating again, it's all the same crap as before I met her. I've had many girlfriends and flings, and quite frankly, no one has ever been good enough for me except her. I would, theoretically, take her back if she asked for another chance because that's what you do when you really love someone. The world would be a much bleaker place without second chances, so I'm willing to give her one. She need only ask. I'm not holding my breath, though. But not all relationships are meant to last. I don't miss any of my other ex's. They were learning experiences and they ran their course. 1
Author Angry bird Posted July 31, 2013 Author Posted July 31, 2013 Aww, that's very nice daft. , why did the break up happen? I now see that, this person I was emotionally involved with, did not feel the same as I did. A d I often questioned him about it. He assured me I was wrong. And I believed him because I wanted him to feel the way I felt about him. But his actions spoke loud and clear. He talked a very charming game tho. I have been in no contact for two weeks, and it really helps. I do not go on any social media. I just want to never see him or speak to him again, and I never want him to know a thing about me. It's weird I want him to want me back, but at the same time I never want to speak to him again.
AllTooWell Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 For me, I would not go back unless some serious changes and discussion took place. I would not go back if he missed me, realized he made a mistake, etc. Because I feel the way you do (though my ex was not hurtful really). I gave you everything I had, I was willing to do anything for you, I loved you with every fibre of my being even once we broke up I was still there for you. He would need to do damn backflips for me to even bat my eyes in his direction again. But I do know people make mistakes. I know what I would need to consider reconciliation. If that was met, well, who knows how I would react.
newmoon Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 Aww, that's very nice daft. , why did the break up happen? I now see that, this person I was emotionally involved with, did not feel the same as I did. A d I often questioned him about it. He assured me I was wrong. And I believed him because I wanted him to feel the way I felt about him. But his actions spoke loud and clear. He talked a very charming game tho. I have been in no contact for two weeks, and it really helps. I do not go on any social media. I just want to never see him or speak to him again, and I never want him to know a thing about me. It's weird I want him to want me back, but at the same time I never want to speak to him again. I feel just the same. We've been NC for 15 days or so and I know in my heart we're done, but my ego wants him to beg me to take him back. I visualize all of these great scenarios where he comes pleading my forgiveness with tons of gifts and etc. and I say 'no.' In my own case I want that because it would validate that he felt something for me that he never actually expressed during our years together - I'd see it as symbolic that he cared.
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