juliatran Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 That's it. After 6 years doing everything for the family, now I have nothing but my 2 year old. He said he no longer wants me and the baby to be with him. Please read my story and give me your advice.. We came to the States together as graduate international students 6 years ago and we all studied and lived in NJ. Then we married and had a kid in 2011. When my kid was 2 month old, in an argument, he got mad, insulted me and forced me out of the house at night while my 2 month old was crying inside. I was so scared and called the police. Then I had to move to my friend's house. Few days later, I decided to come back to my origin of country. I needed supports from my parents during this difficult time and I no longer wanted to be with him.. Then I and the baby was back to my country. During that time he refused to send me any kind of support for the baby. But, still, he convinced me to come back and promised me that he will never ever do such thing again. I trusted him. A year later I came back to US, (I finished my Graduate degree but I came back in a dependent visa) - I agreed with him that I would be a housewife to totally support him in his final year of PhD. Life was terrible. He insulted me again and again when he argued with me. He forced me and the baby out of house. AGAIN. Disappointed and deeply hurt but I still want to forgive him, convincing myself that he was so stressful for the graduation and job applications. So I stayed with him. He got a job in a university. And I hope that things could be changed from now on when we can soon settle down.. Then we decided to take summer trip back to my country this June. When I and the baby were back to my country (last month), I was totally shocked. He refused to send us papers to get back the States (my dependent visa was expired and I need to apply for a new one). He moved to new place and started his new job. I and the 2 year old were abandoned here, in my country, with nothing: no money, no job, no home. We talked. He said he does not want me to call the police again if something happens - that could affect his Green card application process. Then if I want to come back to the States, I have to promise him, in writing, that I will never, ever call police or sue him, even if he treated me badly. I could not believe what I heard. I could not stop my tears. I never sign that paper. I said we need to divorce. If there is no love, no trust, then I'll go. But he did not want to get divorce, being afraid that any lawsuit could harm his career and green card application. Then he left. I could not contact him from that on. Now I and my kid are in my parents house in my home country. I am still trying to recover from those hurts and then to get a new job. And now I know that getting divorce is inevitable. But I am no longer in the States and it is not easy to get a visa back to the States , how could I do? I contacted few lawyers in NJ these days but they charge 400-500$ for the first 1 hour consultation - I do not have such money at this time. Moreover, I don't know how to choose a good family attorney - there are several of them. One of my friend said I need to be back to the States to get divorce. But I can not come back now due to visa issue. Any advice and sharings, recommendations would be precious to me..
keepontruckin Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Sounds to me like you need a lawyer familiar with both immigration and family law. Unfortunately for you, they don't typically work pro bono. Borrow money for legal advice if you can?
karnak Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 As a man, I have to say that you seem a decent woman. Unfortunately it's sad to see that you've suffered so much in these last years. You're very strong. If I were in your shoes I'd have cut off his dick. A guy who throws his wife and their baby child in the street without a very strong reason (and there's no reason in the world who can justify abandoning a baby) isn't worth being called a Man.
Mr. Lucky Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I contacted few lawyers in NJ these days but they charge 400-500$ for the first 1 hour consultation - I do not have such money at this time. Moreover, I don't know how to choose a good family attorney - there are several of them. One of my friend said I need to be back to the States to get divorce. But I can not come back now due to visa issue. Any advice and sharings, recommendations would be precious to me.. Rather than relying on friends for legal advice, why not see a specialist lawyer in your country? Your situation - you're married in US, he's here, you're there - is probably not that unusual... Mr. Lucky 1
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