confusedlady22 Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 (edited) So unfortunately, I've been having an emotional affair with somebody online, it started when i was at my lowest in my life, my husband wasn't working , we had to move in with my parents, he was never at home always out to his friends at night and always at his moms place, one year down the line situation hasn't changed, and i was always at home alone with our 6 year old daughter- no excuses just reasons as I am trying to rationalize my situation in my head. I have been chatting to this guy for about 6 months on and off, our conversations became pretty intense, and we emailed as well as chatted on skype whenever possible. My husband came across the emails on my mobile phone, i forgot to close them i was busy deleting, and the guy i was chatting to , as we haven't spoken to each other in two weeks, and i was hoping to try and remain strong as I needed to stop the EA. But my husband found the emails read them, and now he has walked out , asked for a seperation. He doesn't want anything to do with me , We were all still living by my parents, there has been no progress to make changes to our situation, its been frustrating and lonely. I know what i did was wrong and a huge mistake, I have apologised and dont know what i actually want out of this situation. Any advice would be much appreciated. Edited July 31, 2013 by confusedlady22 correcting title
Realist3 Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Is there any compelling reason why you want to stay with your husband? He is not providing for you and your daughter. He's out with his friends all the time. You are obviously not happy in the relationship. Why not let him go?
turnera Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Personally, I'd be asking why STAY in the marriage? He's spent the last year ignoring you and his daughter and satisfying himself with HIS needs. Just accept the divorce and move on to a better life. Maybe when he sees you accepting it, he'll change his tune. He's probably trying to bluff you.
Betrayed&Stayed Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 From the limited info in your post, my guess is that he sees a "get out of marriage free" card in your emails/EA. Was he ever invested in the marriage?
Author confusedlady22 Posted August 1, 2013 Author Posted August 1, 2013 Is there any compelling reason why you want to stay with your husband? He is not providing for you and your daughter. He's out with his friends all the time. You are obviously not happy in the relationship. Why not let him go? these are the questions I am now asking myself, I have always been there for him through everything, and i just need to take this time to reflect and decide on what is the best way forward, thankyou
Author confusedlady22 Posted August 1, 2013 Author Posted August 1, 2013 Personally, I'd be asking why STAY in the marriage? He's spent the last year ignoring you and his daughter and satisfying himself with HIS needs. Just accept the divorce and move on to a better life. Maybe when he sees you accepting it, he'll change his tune. He's probably trying to bluff you. well we have been together for a long time 20 years, since high school. So he is the only man I know, and we have been through hell and back and i am beginning to wonder if its just a habit now rather than a marriage, and for him to walk out makes me doubt he even wants this anymore, but i need to make some hard decisions too
Author confusedlady22 Posted August 1, 2013 Author Posted August 1, 2013 From the limited info in your post, my guess is that he sees a "get out of marriage free" card in your emails/EA. Was he ever invested in the marriage? when we first started yes he was, but as time went on i think things got difficult and feelings weened off for the both of us. But i feel i deserve more, as I feel so does he , he deserves to be happy if n ot with me, Cause all it feels like now is that we are friends and barely friends, its awful and doesnt feel like a marriage rather like an arrangement.
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