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I met this guy on pool league,we talked the first week, then on the second week his cousin kept telling me he could see we were both interested in each other, so I asked him if he wanted to meet me on friday(a week later)

he said he would,so we had a great time, then it was time to go, he walked me to my car we stood outside talking, finally I asked him to get in, it started to rain, we talked some morehe was really respectful, & we talked about having a real 1st date, he seemed really into me, then the next day I calledto say I really enjoyed myself & I would like to see him again, he's a chef & he was cooking but he didn't seem as interested as the night before.

Am I over analyzing or just being ???? WHAT. I know it's a little soon, but I really like him & I don't want to push him too much or away, the last guy I liked like this, played with me & I got hurt. trying to learn from mistakes & experience. Please help

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He may have been busy when you called. How long has it been since you last talked to him?

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Yes, you are:

 

over analyzing or just being ????

 

It is interesting to me how many people actually answer their own questions once they begin to write. LS's thearaputic value seems to begin at the keyboard.

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nosmas- sometimes it takes someone like you to point it out bfore it finally hits us. Thank you!!!

 

I spoke with him breifly the day after, & he said he would probably call today.

 

The only reason I wondered, when I called & said I would like to see him again & I had a good time, his only response was, not he had a good time, or even a how r u when I called, but, a"well I'm busy M,T,W ect. but I get off early tomorrow, maybe I'll call you then" Maybe???

 

Wouldn't that make any one wonder? especially after, how interested he was before?

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Being a male, I'll let you know that we generally do not weight the nuances of the word "maybe," particularly when they might be applied to someone else's viewpoint. My guess is that what he meant to say was that he was really busy and that the near future was uncertain: "maybe" anything could happen, including calling you, going out, etc.

 

As a chef, you can imagine the myrid of things that could happen. If he's like me, he (and I dare say most guys) has experienced the wrath of a female given a specific committment to do something at a specific time, and then he been unable to follow through.

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