Montana 1968 Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I feel so stupid and angry with myself. I had just managed to successfully do 14 days of strict no contact with my ex but I was lying in bed this morning and "Our Song" came on the radio and before I knew what had happened I'd stupidly sent him a message. I've let myself down, I'm crying as I'm writing this. I was so weak and emotional. I had done so well and managed to fight the urges before.
Legatus Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Well, we all have our weaker moments. Don't beat yourself up over this but don't do it again. Start NC straight away and do not respond if he sends you a message. Stay strong! 1
Philosoraptor Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Everyone has moments of weakness. Don't let a momentary blip take you back to the beginning. Acknowledge you made a mistake, forgive yourself, and keep on your path to happiness. 2
Misfortune Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Just keep telling yourself that there is no us/our any more; there's only me/I. That helps me. 1
Inviv_girl Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Everyone made mistakes, you and me are human. It's ok... just don't do it again. There is no "our songs" anymore, now only your song so pick the best one! no sad songs! and if you ever listen to the old songs as "our" songs ever again just switch the channel!!! It's over, remember that to your self! Big hug to you. 1
emi Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 meh, i know how it feel, but i didnt send him anything. my advice is when u hear that type of '' our song'', switch it off fast before it get to you. so does with other reminder, if that things make u thing of him, distract yourself IMMEDIATELY. and what done is done, try to let it go 2
TaraMaiden Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I feel so stupid and angry with myself. I had just managed to successfully do 14 days of strict no contact with my ex but I was lying in bed this morning and "Our Song" came on the radio and before I knew what had happened I'd stupidly sent him a message. I've let myself down, I'm crying as I'm writing this. I was so weak and emotional. I had done so well and managed to fight the urges before. Oh my god!! How dumb was that?? Of all the idiotic, stupid, senseless, mindless things to do - what the hell ever possessed you to be so weak?? man, that's some crazy action you took there! Jeesh, what a knucklehead!! There. I tore you off a strip. Feel any better? probably not. Look, don't worry about it. Forget even checking for a reply. Delete the number, block calls/texts. You'll be fine. These things happen, everyone has a glitch or two, before they really get under way. Remember how this makes you feel, and be determined to not feel this way, again. Not worth the pain.... is it?
newmoon Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 it's ok, you had a moment of weakness and now you start NC again, no big deal. 14 days was great and it sucks you regressed, but it's not the end of the world - it shows you cared about this person and the memories. no harm in that unless it continues. stay strong this time :-)
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