philthebill Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 So here I am again! I stupidly got back with my ex after she cheated on me and spent 7 months with this guy for I was so deeply in love with her! We got back into contact and decided we both made some mistakes which I was to blame to! So for the last 3 weeks she’s gone cold again doing the same things she had done in our last relationship for us to break up! With added insults, Am not that funny, am scattered like an artist, seemingly any where I go I leave things behind, I am cruel where some of the things I got thrown my way. She was not contacting me much, going for these long walks, staying over at her friends! And talking to me was too much of an effort, she could not find time in her busy day to take an hour to talk! Am not going to sit there and be disrespected like that!! I confronted her and said the only time she contacts me is when she’s walking to work, or walking home from work she works 3 times a week, a max of 20 hours, and at night time for a few mins then she would always fall asleep... I felt she was not making time for me in her day, which is not that busy, her idea of busy is, going on walks, making food , and watching TV! She would never give me her full attention ! Plus her phone was all ways going to voice mail! Any ways she is seeing her ex's brother, not the ex she cheated on me with This guy asked her to a club to take pictures of him DJingand others DJing, the pictures turned out poor, and as I am a graphic designer she asked me to make them look better which I did!! After that night things seemed to go downhill....She started saying things like wonder what it would be like to have a one night stand which raised red flags.. and the fact that my trust for her was very low did not help the situation! I brought up the fact that she was showing added interest in this guy and she down played everything!
Philosoraptor Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Dump her. Not only did she cheat, but she fully disrespects you. But you're right, she's not the only one to blame. You are for allowing her to step all over you again, when you already knew who she was. Don't defend her anymore. She is a disrespectful cheater who will continue to walk all over you for as long as you let her. Stop being a doormat and find someone who will treat you kind and well. 4
emi Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 you really love her ! ghosh, i wish someone can ever love me like u did to her. But cheating is something EXTREMLY UNTOLERATE in a relationship, u may lie, u may say hurtful thing sometime, but cheating is the deadline. its time to save yourself man, there are million girl out there waitting for a generous man like you. dont waste time on her anymore. know when to say '' i had enough'' 1
oldshirt Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I can sum up your action plan here with just one word - "NEXT!" Walk away dude. Don't call her, don't chew her out, don't plead "why why why?" and don't try to rationalize anything with her or do a million post-mortems on your relationship. Just walk away and don't call her and go ask out that cute gal you've had your eye on at Starbucks for awhile. If she calls you, just tell her it was nice to hear from her but that you are "busy" and can't talk. If she wants you to take her somewhere or do something with her, just tell her you are sorry but you are "busy." You are under no obligation to tell her you are busy sitting in your underwear playing Xbox and eating Cheetos. She obviously is not into you and just sees you as more of a "friend" and as someone that she gets attention and strokes from. She isn't giving you $hit and isn't going to, so stop giving her attention and strokes. In a week she will just be a fart in the wind. 99% of this "relationship" has just been in your head anyway. Get out and start meeting some other girls. 1
Author philthebill Posted August 9, 2013 Author Posted August 9, 2013 I can sum up your action plan here with just one word - "NEXT!" Walk away dude. Don't call her, don't chew her out, don't plead "why why why?" and don't try to rationalize anything with her or do a million post-mortems on your relationship. Just walk away and don't call her and go ask out that cute gal you've had your eye on at Starbucks for awhile. If she calls you, just tell her it was nice to hear from her but that you are "busy" and can't talk. If she wants you to take her somewhere or do something with her, just tell her you are sorry but you are "busy." You are under no obligation to tell her you are busy sitting in your underwear playing Xbox and eating Cheetos. She obviously is not into you and just sees you as more of a "friend" and as someone that she gets attention and strokes from. She isn't giving you $hit and isn't going to, so stop giving her attention and strokes. In a week she will just be a fart in the wind. 99% of this "relationship" has just been in your head anyway. Get out and start meeting some other girls. Thanks a lot for taking the the time out to reply Have been avoiding the internet for a while, and its been nearly two weeks with out any contact, hard but I feel great about it! Am getting back dating lifes to short to be sad and eatting chettos Thanks again that comment really helped me
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