Maffian Posted October 30, 2004 Posted October 30, 2004 I go to second year in a high school and there is this girl (she goes to the same class) i like and i think she likes me but i always sort of freeze up when i want to talk to her. Its like i forget the entire English language. This only happens when in front of other people, when i am alone with her (going home etc) i can talk to her almost normally. Last three weeks she was ignoring me and avoiding me. Maybe my inability to talk to her might have looked to her that i was ignoring her so she did the same thing, i don't know. On Thursday in the morning i saw her walking to the school i would have sworn she saw me as well. She just continued walking and i had to run to catch up with her, we had a small conversation...After that the whole day she was staring at me all the time. I was explaining some modern theories about physics to my friend and she even tried to join the conversation (and i know she hates physics). The next day she comes to school in what must have been her best clothes, but i never had an opportunity and courage to talk to her. Does she expect me to ask her out? And why did she ignore me for almost a month, this doesn't make sense. There is no school next week and i am leaving the country, coming back next Saturday. I was thinking that next Saturday i would call her and ask her out on Sunday. Do u think i should do it or should i wait for while? I have never had a girlfriend before and i don't think she had either. How should i ask her out? I am almost certain that she would say yes. Is there anything that i should not say on a date or what i should say? I'm a quiet person but there was never this awkward silence when it was just her and me so i don't think that would be the problem. I have no experience with girls and i appreciate any advice. I like her for like 8 months now and i think the same goes for her, but i never had the courage to ask her out and i was scared that i would **** it up on the first date. But her acting last week has encouraged me to do it. If she isn't blind she must know i like her and that i feel uncomfortable with her, so maybe it was her aim to encourage me to ask her out. I don't know...
bluetuesday Posted October 30, 2004 Posted October 30, 2004 only one way to find out, maffian. if she likes you, how you ask isn't going to make that much difference. she'll say yes. if she doesn't like you, how you ask isn't going to make that much difference. she'll say no. the important thing is to ask. and yes, if she likes you she's probably waiting for you to ask first so she doesn't have to. unfair, but that's women. and if you're pretty sure she'll say yes, what on earth are you waiting for? the perfect moment is right now. there are no rules of what to say on a date but i'd recommend encouraging her to talk about herself, don't just talk about yourself all night. genuine interest in what makes her tick will go a very long way. find common ground. if you've got shared interests focus on them. finally dress smart, be clean, open doors, pay the bill and tell her she looks amazing. you'll be fine. just go for it.
iceisles Posted October 30, 2004 Posted October 30, 2004 Originally posted by bluetuesday only one way to find out, maffian. if she likes you, how you ask isn't going to make that much difference. she'll say yes. if she doesn't like you, how you ask isn't going to make that much difference. she'll say no. the important thing is to ask. and yes, if she likes you she's probably waiting for you to ask first so she doesn't have to. unfair, but that's women. and if you're pretty sure she'll say yes, what on earth are you waiting for? the perfect moment is right now. there are no rules of what to say on a date but i'd recommend encouraging her to talk about herself, don't just talk about yourself all night. genuine interest in what makes her tick will go a very long way. find common ground. if you've got shared interests focus on them. finally dress smart, be clean, open doors, pay the bill and tell her she looks amazing. you'll be fine. just go for it. Great points above. I'll be asking out my love interest this week, and I keep debating in my head the best way to ask the big question. But what bluetuesday said is dead on - how I ask won't make the least bit of difference. Even if I trip all over my words (which I hope doesn't happen), she'll still say "yes" if she's interested. Conversely, I could come out with a short speech made for a romance film, and if she's not interested, the answer will still be "no." I'm expecting the answer to be in the middle - something like, "I'll have to think about it", which I will actually take as a small victory. As for the date, just be yourself, be a gentleman, and ask plenty of questions. Like blue said, showing a genuine interest in someone is probably the single best thing you can do on a first date. Certainly talk about yourself some, but keep what you say short and to the point and try to follow it up with a question for her. Good luck, and keep us posted on how it goes!
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