Dusk1983 Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 Another post that makes me think we need a 21-and-under sub forum. You're both still kids. You'll cheat on girls, girls will cheat on you. You'll fall in love, you'll fall out of love. None of it matters. It's not real. Enjoy being young.
StarsOnFire Posted August 1, 2013 Posted August 1, 2013 Update on that. I know this is semi irrelevant to the rest of my points, but...she never got back to me about the whole coming over to my place idea that I had. She kept talking to me a bit throughout today, but never said "oh i can't make it tonight". She was using FB mobile and it revealed her locations with each reply. It looks like she went to see a movie tonight, I can see her location get closer to the theater as she sent me the messages. She doesn't have a car nor does her friend "Katie". So basically, she blew me off to see a movie with god knows who. Even if it was her friends...why. We haven't seen each other in 3 days and have barely been conversing. Now I think i've reached the point of being obsessive. This is so ****ed. I could be completely off here, but I do understand the part about her not wanting to miss out on her first few nights at her apartment with her roomie. If she's moving in with her friend, I could see me and my girl friend getting all excited about a new place and planning our first night or whatnot there. It's more of a girl thing. So if that's the case, she should've just said I'm really excited to be in my new place too and Katie and I have roomie plans tonight, but I'll check out your place asap too. Or something like that? And the location thing could be her running out to get stuff for her new place. You don't know for sure she went to go see a movie, I'm sure there's more stuff than a theater in the area. I think you're overthinking a lot. But I'm not in your shoes, so I don't know, just trying to give you different views. What I do know, is in a relationship you have things you can, and cannot put up with. And you need to decide if she's giving you what you need or not. Good luck!
Author JWS3163 Posted August 1, 2013 Author Posted August 1, 2013 (edited) I could be completely off here, but I do understand the part about her not wanting to miss out on her first few nights at her apartment with her roomie. If she's moving in with her friend, I could see me and my girl friend getting all excited about a new place and planning our first night or whatnot there. It's more of a girl thing. So if that's the case, she should've just said I'm really excited to be in my new place too and Katie and I have roomie plans tonight, but I'll check out your place asap too. Or something like that? And the location thing could be her running out to get stuff for her new place. You don't know for sure she went to go see a movie, I'm sure there's more stuff than a theater in the area. I think you're overthinking a lot. But I'm not in your shoes, so I don't know, just trying to give you different views. What I do know, is in a relationship you have things you can, and cannot put up with. And you need to decide if she's giving you what you need or not. Good luck! Nah, i'm 99% sure it was a movie. Have you noticed on FB when it says when people were last online? If you shut off your phone, it will erase that number completely, just leaving a little icon. At 10:10 she was 5 minutes from the theatre, then for 2 hours it showed that icon, then she texted me back around 12:30 or so. Ya know, I don't even care that she was at a movie..but not only did she make some piss poor excuse, but she never even mentioned that she was not coming over, nor did she tell me she saw a movie. I asked her casually how her night was sne she made it sound like she did nothing. I don't know. I just have a bad feeling. When I talk to her next...should i ask her about seeing the movie, and about the texts i saw from that guy as a result of snooping on her phone? Edited August 1, 2013 by JWS3163
Author JWS3163 Posted August 1, 2013 Author Posted August 1, 2013 (edited) Another post that makes me think we need a 21-and-under sub forum. You're both still kids. You'll cheat on girls, girls will cheat on you. You'll fall in love, you'll fall out of love. None of it matters. It's not real. Enjoy being young. I'm turning 22 in two days, and I would consider myself fairly mature, especially relationship-wise, except for my trust issues. I've never cheated, never would, nor would I ever fall in love with someone unless I really had a healthy and meaningful relationship with them. Sometimes it just feels like I can't find the right girl. I guess you're right, it won't be the end of the world if this goes to hell, I don't mind being single...but I also don't like sleeping around. Having a companion that you care about, and cares about you, is probably the best feeling in the world. Each relationship I have gets significantly better than the last, and I really thought this had a lot of potential. ****, I'm already acting like things are over, I don't even know anything for certain yet. I guess my gut is just telling me all of this. Edited August 1, 2013 by JWS3163
Author JWS3163 Posted August 1, 2013 Author Posted August 1, 2013 Doesn't seem towant you there when she hangs with a mixed group of friends. Not good. Not good at all. And "he's ugly and not good in bed but he's a featured friend on Facebook" means they are more than just friends. Find a girl that parallells your lifestyle and goals a little more than this weed smoking party girl who desn't want you around when she party's. what do you even think that means? I know at least one of her friends thinks i'm very attractive, and I get along with all of them fine, so I don't think she's embarrassed or anything...I think it implies there's a much more serious reason for it
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