Wolfy Posted October 30, 2004 Posted October 30, 2004 About 6 months ago me and my girlfriend splt up after neary 4 years together, we were and still are soulmates cos we stayed best friends,but she left me cos something was missing??? but recently she been saying we had the perfect relationship??????? your guess as good as mine,she did have alot on her mind (her step father was abit of a perve) and i helped her through alot,shes with another guy who really dont give her enough support(she has lots of insecurities) and needs to be well loved just cant realy get my head around it,we stll love each other but i know deep down we'll never get back together!! It breaks my heart to see her hurting and kills me to my soul, i would lay my life for her in an instant, but was wondering if anyone else been in similar situation? just i never treated her bad and she was always my queen why do nice guys finish last???????
innocntlisy1981 Posted October 31, 2004 Posted October 31, 2004 if u know u are never gunna get bak together why do u keep pursuing this dream cos thats all it is.she has obviously realised now just how great u were but she has her self in a situation now which is very hard to get out of .i know from experience u dont realise what u got til its gone but then its to late.i think u should offer her support but i also think that maybe u should just move on.if u still love each other so badly why arent u together.it just seems to me that she is keeping u ahnging around as a last resort like second best maybe she likes the idea that u love her so much u would do anything for her and even though she is in anutha realitionship.she dosent want you to be.u cant have ur cake and eat it to.u can oonly do so much for sum1 hey.im not saying bail her im just saying put urself first for a change u seem like a nice guy.
Winter_wolf Posted October 31, 2004 Posted October 31, 2004 yeah i hear what ya saying,know it's true too,i have moved on funny enough and got some trips plannned to balance my chi,which so looking forwards to.but suppose once you really have found your soul mate it's hard hehe, just hope she does find what she's looking for,cheers for your response
innocntlisy1981 Posted October 31, 2004 Posted October 31, 2004 it sounds like ur a really nice guy obviously she dosent think ur good enuth for her sum1 else will appreciate u tha way u spose to be appreciated;-)
opaleye Posted November 1, 2004 Posted November 1, 2004 I really believe that if it's meant to be it will be. Either you will get back together (obviously not right now but some time in the future) or you won't and you will find someone else. Either way you should try to help yourself move on because it's not meant to be at the moment. Sometimes people need to experience lots of different things and learn things from different people - sometimes people need to go out, learn about these things and then maybe one day in the future you will get back together with this person and maybe something you've learnt along the way will make it work out. Maybe not though and you shouldn't wait around hoping that she will change her mind because it's just not fair on you. If you can stay her best friend then that would be nice for both of you but make sure that you aren't disadvantaging yourself by hanging onto her in your mind as a romantic partner- be her friend and help her as much as you can if that works for you guys but just make sure that you put yourself first. I have to believe that in the end nice guys DON'T finish last (nor nice girls for that matter) and just try to believe that if this girl's not for you then there is another who is. Be strong and look after yourself.
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