danlightbulb Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 Hello all. I have a 3rd date coming up with a really nice lady I met on online dating. The first date, basically the meet and greet, was just a drink in the pub on a saturday night. For the 2nd date we went out midweek for a meal and a drink. Now I phoned her tonight to arrange the 3rd date. This is where I need help. Basically the phone call, although it went well, didn't end up with anything conclusive. We both have saturday night and sunday day free. I suggested a few things, from cinema and a meal, to ice skating, to a night in with a takeaway and a DVD for the saturday night, and for the sunday I suggested a walk out somewhere and / or a sunday lunch out somewhere nice. But she didn't express a preference at all during the call. So now I don't know what to do. As far as I know we are definitely going out somewhere! Trouble is at the moment there are no definitive plans and I don't know what day it will be! So its pretty much up to me to decide I guess, which is fine, but I can't decide what to do now. It would be nice to do the normal meal, drink, film thing on the saturday and a couple of drinks would most likely make the evening a bit more fluid. Yet I'm also keen on doing something outdoors on the sunday and can think of a really nice waterfall place but its 90 minutes drive away which might be too much car time for a 3rd date? Help!
HokeyReligions Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 I'd vote waterfall. It also gives you time to get to know each other better. Think about what you've talked about so far. Certainly there are clues in your conversations that would help you decide what kinds of activities she might like. Look at her online profile too. Good luck and have fun. 1
soccerrprp Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 I think that this is one of those situations where the guy is expected to decide and solidify the date. She is wanting you to make the decision and let her know the plans. The sooner, the better. I personally wouldn't involve a 90-minute drive unless, you share this option with her and she is open to it. It could be a great way to talk and get to know one another and then go for a walk around the fall. Is it and the drive scenic? If so, that would be a plus. Have a picnic out there. Ice skating sounds fun, too. You can always fall back on the traditional meal and movie thing, but doing something a little more original is better. Take-away and DVD in, well, not sure about this. Make-out session is the intent I would imagine, right? Maybe more? I find this option less appealing right now. She wants (it seems) to be with you, so what you do is likely not so important, but your take-charge and more creative suggestions would score more for you. Good luck.
Author danlightbulb Posted July 30, 2013 Author Posted July 30, 2013 Thanks. I'll make the waterfall suggestion and let her know its a 90 minute drive away and see how that goes down. It is very nice and scenic, a few miles walking which we both like anyway. I could take some food with me as a surprise. What small picnic things could I take? I was unsure whether 'giving up' the saturday night 'prime time' was a good idea given that its available. I've been out of the dating game for a while (divorced) so I'm having to learn it all from scratch. 1
soccerrprp Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 No, don't "give up" the Saturday night. Go eat something and then go skating. Movies are good, but no opp to talk. I just think that you could do something more creative with that time. Light/vegetarian sandwiches, fruit, water(extra for hike), some healthy snacks...bring a backpack and include a light blanket to sit on, etc. Good luck! 1
Author danlightbulb Posted July 30, 2013 Author Posted July 30, 2013 I'm sorry you've lost me a little. The waterfall trip would have to be the sunday, which means not doing anything on the Saturday night unless I suggest doing something on both days? I don't want to put too much pressure on.
Lansing Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 One day is plenty. Girls often want the guy to be decisive and have a plan in mind. If she says she isn't interested then you can talk about backup plans
soccerrprp Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I'm sorry you've lost me a little. The waterfall trip would have to be the sunday, which means not doing anything on the Saturday night unless I suggest doing something on both days? I don't want to put too much pressure on. Oh, thought you had both days. Do Sunday to the falls.
PogoStick Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Find out if there are grills there or a nearby park and then make it a nice afternoon grill out/picnic after the waterfall. My favorite is to buy those whole small trouts. Then she'll probably want to contribute so tell her to bring some fruit for both of you. Add some crackers+cheese, and a couple beers (make sure she likes beer). Wine is too fancy.
Author danlightbulb Posted July 31, 2013 Author Posted July 31, 2013 Good news, waterfall suggestion went down well so that's where we are going. Now got to get the balance right on the picnic don't want to go too OTT plus we are stopping off on the way back at the pub so might eat there.
sdraw108 Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Now got to get the balance right on the picnic don't want to go too OTT plus we are stopping off on the way back at the pub so might eat there. Wow, stop overthinking. She's not going to be analyzing which items are in the picnic! Just go for the usual things - bread, dips + sticks, ham, cheese, some fruit, chocolate biscuits, drinks, whatever.
MidwestUSA Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Wow, stop overthinking. She's not going to be analyzing which items are in the picnic! Just go for the usual things - bread, dips + sticks, ham, cheese, some fruit, chocolate biscuits, drinks, whatever. Wine! Where's the wine? You got cheese and fruit! No wine?
soccerrprp Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Wine! Where's the wine? You got cheese and fruit! No wine? Unless you will not be indulging, drinking alcohol is a bad idea when driving.
soccerrprp Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Wine! Where's the wine? You got cheese and fruit! No wine? Unless you, OP, will not be indulging, drinking alcohol is a bad idea when driving.
Author danlightbulb Posted August 3, 2013 Author Posted August 3, 2013 Well unfortunately its all fell through. Were supposed to be going tomorrow, I was going to call tonight (which I said I would do), just to organise what time to pick her up etc, and I got a text message saying this: Hey, how are you? Sorry it's short notice but don't think I can make tomorrow. I'd forgotten I've got a baby shower I'm meant to be going to in the afternoon and supposed to be helping out with some stuff in the morning I read the message about 20 minutes after it arrived, and tried to call her but no answer. So I replied with a text saying That's a shame I was looking forward to it. Give you a call later? I've had no response. Really disappointed, would have been a great day. Pretty rough cancelling like this only the night before a day out. So I guess the ball is in her court now. Anyone like to bet whether I'll hear from her again or not?
Author danlightbulb Posted August 4, 2013 Author Posted August 4, 2013 I hardly slept last night for thinking about this. Please could anyone help with some advice?
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