theloyalone1 Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 I'm 28, part jamaican woman and lately have had an intrigue interest in white males. *Especially since ex recently tried to come back in my life* I'm at a stage in my life where I want to explore and try something new. I've only dated black guys and even though I still have love for them, I came across some black males as close minded. I would say I'm atheletic and LOVE the outdoors (bike riding, Kayaking, hiking) and haven't met a black male to find this amusing and worthwhile. Anyway, the reason for this post is I'm shy at how to approach a white male. I know it may sound bizarre, but I would like some honest feedback.
MrCastle Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 I'm not sure but I would guess you can approach white men the same way you can any other man of any other ethnicity. 3
white Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 I can give you tips based on what movies taught me: Don't expect a white man to be able to jump Don't expect a white man to be able to dance This is bound to be helpful, right? You know I actually did a small study during my degree on ethnic attitudes to outdoors pursuits. To wit, they don't do it much compared to whites. So I know where you're coming from on the black guys not being into that stuff. You're a statistical outlier being into it yourself.
dasein Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 You shouldn't have to approach any differently based on race. As a woman of any race who sincerely enjoys outdoorsy things, join a few clubs and outing groups. You should get all the favorable attention you can handle and likely won't have to do too much approaching. Good luck.
soccerrprp Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 Anyway, the reason for this post is I'm shy at how to approach a white male. I know it may sound bizarre, but I would like some honest feedback. It sounds to me that you are very confident when approaching black males, no? So that same confidence should suddenly evaporate when approaching other males of other ethnicities. What I see here, and correct me if I'm wrong, is that you are insecure about how white males would view you, or respond to you. You're out of YOUR comfort zone and that makes you uneasy. Let me ask you this; do you consider yourself an attractive woman? An attractiveness that you have noticed acknowledged by both black and non-black males? It comes down to giving yourself the opportunity to meet guys of other ethnic groups and gradually making yourself approachable, open to, at first, perhaps, friendly encounters. This is to help you gain your confidence. Otherwise, there is no difference how you should approach them. If anything, and depending on where you live, it will be the white guys who will be a little nervous. Good luck. I personally think it great that you are opening yourself up to more opportunity to find someone for you! 1
RogerWallace111 Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 For the most part, just act as you might with anyone. The only thing possibly worth noting is that- forgive my stereotyping- white guys are typically less bold than black guys when it comes to women. At least in the U.S. They're generally not as straightforward & flirtatious, so if you're used to that, I could see them coming off as shy or uninterested in comparison. Meaning you might have to meet them halfway and/or subtly express interest in them before they'll feel comfortable showing interest in you. Basically, just cause a white guy isn't making it known that he digs you or finds you attractive, doesn't mean it isn't the case. Plus white Americans are often intimidated by people of other ethnicities. You in the states ? What area ? In most metropolitan areas and states like California, Florida & New York, finding white men who love black women should be very easy.
Sarabi Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 You in the states ? What area ? In most metropolitan areas and states like California, Florida & New York, finding white men who love black women should be very easy. Oh my If that is the case I'm definitely coming payday is next friday, I'll be on the plane later that morning!!! 1
charlietheginger Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Black guys are pretty open with words and smooth talking. Such as just saying " hey pretty baby i see you dont have a man" " when you gonna let me take you out " so and so.... White guys are not as direct it might take a few dates Before one tries to make moves. I dont know what else to recommend except dont tell White guys you have dated a buncha black guys. Say this "ive always liked white guys even in highschool my first boyfriend Was white" this way he is sure you actually like white guys And you find them attractive instead of him thinking oh She prob has had sex with 100black guys and none will marry Her so now she is interested in a pushover white guy
Nyla Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I'm 28, part jamaican woman and lately have had an intrigue interest in white males. *Especially since ex recently tried to come back in my life* I'm at a stage in my life where I want to explore and try something new. I've only dated black guys and even though I still have love for them, I came across some black males as close minded. I would say I'm atheletic and LOVE the outdoors (bike riding, Kayaking, hiking) and haven't met a black male to find this amusing and worthwhile. Anyway, the reason for this post is I'm shy at how to approach a white male. I know it may sound bizarre, but I would like some honest feedback. My husband is white. My first boyfriend was also white. I have never been treated well by a black man and I notice that my loved ones have not been treated well by black men either. This is not to say that white guys are perfect; I am only talking about my own experience. Also, you will want to be careful that the white guys you meet are serious about a relationship. Sometimes they just want to try having sex with a black woman. I think it makes more sense to wait for a man to approach you. Most men like to make the first move and this way you know he is interested. What about joining a dating service?
ScreamingTrees Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Black guys are pretty open with words and smooth talking. Such as just saying " hey pretty baby i see you dont have a man" " when you gonna let me take you out " so and so.... White guys are not as direct it might take a few dates Before one tries to make moves. I dont know what else to recommend except dont tell White guys you have dated a buncha black guys. Say this "ive always liked white guys even in highschool my first boyfriend Was white" this way he is sure you actually like white guys And you find them attractive instead of him thinking oh She prob has had sex with 100black guys and none will marry Her so now she is interested in a pushover white guy Why is it that I rarely see dudes saying **** like this where I live, which is certainly a melting pot? The dudes that I do catch running their mouths usually don't get anywhere with it, either. If I was particularly interested in an ethnic other, why would I assume anything other than yeah, they've probably been with a bunch of guys of their background? It'd be normal. If she don't like what I've got, she can move on. But obviously she likes something.. So I'm not too worried. And I ain't intimidated by anyone, even if they're an as dark as the night ex. The only white dudes who'll be thinking like that are the pushover white dudes anyway. A non-pushover individual, regardless of their ethnicity, isn't going to even be considering being the last option, he'll be thinking he's the upgrade to whoever she was with, regardless of what ethnicity they were. He'll treat her with respect, but demand the same. He'll expect to be treated as well as he feels he deserves. If a black girl wanted to date me and stressed the whole "i've always liked white guys" I'd just think she's a weirdo with a racial fetish, like doofy old white men going for mail order asian/latina wives or black/middle eastern/hispanic men obsessing over trophy white women that they'll probably never get, as if anyone gives a **** what they do with their lives. If you're a weirdo, people will think you're a weirdo no matter what you do to make yourself feel better about it.
charlietheginger Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Im not in your city ]Why is it that I rarely see dudes saying **** like this where I live, which is certainly a melting pot? The dudes that I do catch running their mouths usually don't get anywhere with it, either. If I was particularly interested in an ethnic other, why would I assume anything other than yeah, they've probably been with a bunch of guys of their background? It'd be normal. If she don't like what I've got, she can move on. But obviously she likes something.. So I'm not too worried. And I ain't intimidated by anyone, even if they're an as dark as the night ex. The only white dudes who'll be thinking like that are the pushover white dudes anyway. A non-pushover individual, regardless of their ethnicity, isn't going to even be considering being the last option, he'll be thinking he's the upgrade to whoever she was with, regardless of what ethnicity they were. He'll treat her with respect, but demand the same. He'll expect to be treated as well as he feels he deserves. If a black girl wanted to date me and stressed the whole "i've always liked white guys" I'd just think she's a weirdo with a racial fetish, like doofy old white men going for mail order asian/latina wives or black/middle eastern/hispanic men obsessing over trophy white women that they'll probably never get, as if anyone gives a **** what they do with their lives. If you're a weirdo, people will think you're a weirdo no matter what you do to make yourself feel better about it.
ScreamingTrees Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Im not in your city ] Didn't really make that post with you in mind, no offense or anything, it was more of a mini rant that I sprung off of your post. It was more of me musing about lame stereotypes rather than specifically asking you a question I could've answered myself. lol
Author theloyalone1 Posted August 1, 2013 Author Posted August 1, 2013 I thank everyone personal advice. I will give it a shot and suppose to Go to a lounge for the first time so well see.
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