Mws Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 Ok so my ex is on a trip and she has been sending me messages she is dating another guy but has flat out said she misses our relationship and me. And said she wants to meet me when she gets back because she has had time to think. I dont want to get back with her by any means after this. It just makes me realize she was doing this to me behind my back with another guy. I know her new boyfriend should I tell him about this and forward him the messages? I do not want to get back with her, but I do feel bad for this other guy because it happened to me. Advice would be greatly appreciated
TheBestisYettoCome Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 No. It's just going to cause a lot of crap for you both. I have a little story for you. A girl I worked with had a serious boyfriend who lived 1000 miles away. I was very attracted to her and when she made a move, I reciprocated. We had sex over the course of the next year every month or so, the last time being May, right before she left to move in with her boyfriend! Everyone at work wanted to tell him, he would come visit her every month, but nobody did. And believe me I wanted to say something. The weekend she moved, he proposed to her, she said YES. I'm not kidding. A week earlier I had sex with this girl who was now engaged. I didn't say a word. It would have caused my life unnecessary pain. It's a lose-lose if you tell him. She's gonna continue this behavior until this very thing happens to her.
mtnbiker3000 Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 (edited) No. It's just going to cause a lot of crap for you both. I have a little story for you. A girl I worked with had a serious boyfriend who lived 1000 miles away. I was very attracted to her and when she made a move, I reciprocated. We had sex over the course of the next year every month or so, the last time being May, right before she left to move in with her boyfriend! Everyone at work wanted to tell him, he would come visit her every month, but nobody did. And believe me I wanted to say something. The weekend she moved, he proposed to her, she said YES. I'm not kidding. A week earlier I had sex with this girl who was now engaged. I didn't say a word. It would have caused my life unnecessary pain. It's a lose-lose if you tell him. She's gonna continue this behavior until this very thing happens to her. ^^^ Dude. That's terrible. Why would you do that?? OP - No, I wouldn't say anything. It won't do anything but create drama... But definitely DO NOT sleep with her again!!! Edited July 30, 2013 by mtnbiker3000 1
TaraMaiden Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 Send her one text message: "You're with someone else now. I have moved on. I don't want to go out with you, and would not take you back, even if you were single. Do not contact me any more. Have a good life." Short, simple, to the point and final. Let her stew in her own juice and make her own decisions, and mistakes. seems like she's an accomplished phukkup anyway, so you're best distancing yourself and closing off all further contact. Download the Call/text blocker....register her number. It works wonders.
Author Mws Posted July 30, 2013 Author Posted July 30, 2013 You guys I am not trying to create drama I really do honestly feel bad for this guy. I know what its like to have it happen to me. I almost feel guilt if I dont say anything. ty for your imput.
TaraMaiden Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 In that case, add to your text to her: ..."If you continue to contact me, I feel it only fair to let your current BF in on it." (Insert after the word 'single'.) That should certainly stop her in her tracks. If she persists - THEN tell him. At least you gave her warning.....? 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 In that case, add to your text to her: ..."If you continue to contact me, I feel it only fair to let your current BF in on it." That should certainly stop her in her tracks. If she persists - THEN tell him. At least you gave her warning.....? Yup. This ^^^
Misfortune Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 Relationships seem to suck these days. It's all about cake eating, open relationship, needing space, finding yourself, needing to explore other options and all that other crap. Most of these things should've been done before entering a relationship. I'm personally done with relationships. You can't even trust the person that lays beside you every night. Everyone seems to be out to satisfy whatever selfish desires they have. It's annoying that there are always excuses for people who crush others hearts with no remorse. 3
eddyctv Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 Let the other guy know Nothing like revenge. I completely agree!!!!
mtnbiker3000 Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 Relationships seem to suck these days. It's all about cake eating, open relationship, needing space, finding yourself, needing to explore other options and all that other crap. Most of these things should've been done before entering a relationship. I'm personally done with relationships. You can't even trust the person that lays beside you every night. Everyone seems to be out to satisfy whatever selfish desires they have. It's annoying that there are always excuses for people who crush others hearts with no remorse. Because the next (better?) thing is just a click away... Too easy. I wish social media, OLD and all that kind of crap would just go away 1
Spoonss Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Tell him man. If it was me dating her I would want to know this, spare the guy months of his time. Tell him if its true and definite.
jesse93 Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 No. It's just going to cause a lot of crap for you both. I have a little story for you. A girl I worked with had a serious boyfriend who lived 1000 miles away. I was very attracted to her and when she made a move, I reciprocated. We had sex over the course of the next year every month or so, the last time being May, right before she left to move in with her boyfriend! Everyone at work wanted to tell him, he would come visit her every month, but nobody did. And believe me I wanted to say something. The weekend she moved, he proposed to her, she said YES. I'm not kidding. A week earlier I had sex with this girl who was now engaged. I didn't say a word. It would have caused my life unnecessary pain. It's a lose-lose if you tell him. She's gonna continue this behavior until this very thing happens to her. This is such a sad story to hear, why didn't you tell the poor guy? screw the pain and heart ache can you imagine him now getting married to a girl he loves with all his heart and believes is loyal to him but shes been sleeping with you this whole time, all you did by not telling him is prolonging his pain for whenever he does find out if he does, but even if he never finds out i think the guy still deserves to know that honestly made me really sad to read. but as for your situation it is the right thing to do in a way but it will cause loads of drama, my friends ex always contacts him saying she loves him and wants to be with him but she has a boyfriend so he decided to screen cap the texts and send the proof to her current boyfriend. unfortunately her boyfriend didn't do anything about it from what i know. But i guess it all depends if i was in this situation i would want to know, i don't want to be with a girl who is only with me to forget someone else as their rebound when they dont truly feel anything for me like i do for them. its up to you whatever you decide man, best of luck. 1
Spoonss Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 To all you telling him not to say anything?! Shame on you. Its another guys feelings. I guarantee if you where the guy she was dating yet was trying to get back together with her ex you would want to know. Regardless.
jesse93 Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 To all you telling him not to say anything?! Shame on you. Its another guys feelings. I guarantee if you where the guy she was dating yet was trying to get back together with her ex you would want to know. Regardless. i agree 100%
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