DavidLondon Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 (edited) So i started meeting up with girl, everything was going well. I wasn't sure if i really wanted anything from it but she chased me to meet her over a number of weeks before i agreed. She was always happy to see me when we bumped into each other. She's been single for about 3 years after it seems she was royally screwed over by her ex. We have a lot of mutual friends who said she hadn't showed this interest with anyone for years. We started seeing each other and i was getting loads of hints that she wanted it to be more serious. She works with my ex and she mentioned it was probably time to at least make her aware before she found out another way. So she told her we had been seeing each other and it was all fine. Everything was great we saw each other a few times a week, had dinner walks and sleeping together etc until one night when she said she didn't want anything to serious she wants to be selfish right now. I was quite obviously confused, she then said she likes doing all the Meals, Walks, sleeping together and wants it to continue she also said she has no interest in seeing anyone else (pretty much a relationship in my book) but doesn't want me to have a boyfriend she feels she needs to answer to. As far as all our friends are aware they think we are a couple and we are a great match and i was happy with how things were until this was brought up and made it really negative. I said we could try it after she said she would be pretty gutted if i didn't want to. I told her if she had wanted to see other people there would be no chance as its not normal to do all the relationship stuff and do that and i am personally not wanting to waste my time and i am happy with not labelling it. She agreed and seemed happy with it. But she's gone pretty cold over the last few days and i have really heard from her and she was off with me when i bumped into her at the weekend. I have no idea whats changed or if she is just scared of getting screwed over again... Edited July 30, 2013 by DavidLondon missed a bit
Author DavidLondon Posted July 31, 2013 Author Posted July 31, 2013 Any ideas, Help would be greatly appreciated people. Thanks
Woop1337 Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I think it's over. She wants a break from you. The thing is you guys are not even in a relationship. Move on.
Author DavidLondon Posted August 1, 2013 Author Posted August 1, 2013 She's off as in she rarely initiates us speaking where as she used to all the time. I speak to her every few days and she seems happy to speak to me and if i suggest meeting up she is always happy to do something and i am never left waiting for a reply. I don't smother her at all, we only see each other a few times a week. She chased me into this wanting things to be more serious, i was happy being single it was her that wanted it to evolve at first. I remember her talking about how she heard i get bored easily. So am starting to wonder if this is her trying to keep me interested. Well its working. I personally am starting to lose interest or any enthusiasm to be involved with her and could just walk away. Which is a shame as she is an amazing girl esp if shes just being like this because she doesn't want to get hurt and maybe like this she thinks i am around for her but she doesn't need to get to attached. Which in itself suggest she is already more attached than she would like to be.
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