littlehope Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 I was reminded of a thing a guy told me once, some years ago that really bugged me. He dumped me out of the blue and told me that Though he wasn't in love with me "doesn't mean I don't care for you". To me this was utterly bizarre, he knew I was hurting badly - I cried openly to him. He also texted me the next say, that he hoped we could be in touch some day and "sorry that it had to be this way"... was he blaming me? I felt like he was just trying to hurt me even more, he could not put himsef in my shoes..? He's still single since that. and we've talked too - a few times but he keeps it at a social chit chat level so I've stopped with it altogether. Anyway, I'll never forget how strange I thought it was for him to say those things at the time, not only because he proved that he didn't care for me but that it's also a pretty stupid thing to say ..me thinks
Balzac Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 W0W is all I can say. Amazing how you can parse the word "care" and cast him in such negative light.
Philosoraptor Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 Well it's guilt talking, but he was being honest. He didn't love you, but did care about you as a person. He cared enough to end things early so that you could move on and find someone who did love you in that way. Sounds like a pretty respectable thing to do. 1
TigerCub Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 I'm not in love with my friends - but I care about them. It's the same thing Just because he doesn't want to have a romantic relationship with you, doesn't mean that he no longer cares for you as a person. How did you get - he 'blames' you from that? 2
Author littlehope Posted July 30, 2013 Author Posted July 30, 2013 (edited) yeah, to me it wasn't early it was super bad timing but I guess to him it was alright.. he'd tried me out in his world for a while and I guess I didn't fit in. His actions were extremely confusing, and it didn't end any better. After telling me that he didnt love me he told me that we could stick together waiting for better partners. I thought my ears would come off. I will never see this dude in a respectable light, maybe cos I was so incredibly hurt. Edited July 30, 2013 by littlehope
TigerCub Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 yeah, to me it wasn't early it was super bad timing but I guess to him it was alright.. he'd tried me out in his world for a while and I guess I didn't fit in. His actions were extremely confusing, and it didn't end any better. After telling me that he didnt love me he told me that we could stick together waiting for better partners. I thought my ears would come off. I will never see this dude in a respectable light, maybe cos I was so incredibly hurt. Yeah that's beyond insulting. I'm glad that you see you're too good for that kind of nonsense.
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