T_W Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 (edited) Love is a strange thing. I met this amazing lady about a week and half ago. It was serendipitous, we had a brief chat, nice and short. I invited her to a gallery opening, she wrote down her number and gave it to me. I texted her the next day, we met each other at the gallery, we were planning to get dinner together after, but she received a message from one of her good friends, whose dog just passed away the day before, so she had to see her friend that night. She said I would love to have dinner with you, I'm free anytime this week, just let me know. We chose some flowers together for her friend, I walked her to the train stop, she almost fell over on the way, she held my hand for a little bit after that. So I texted her the day after, asked her for a date at a concert, and dinner. She agreed, we had a great time, beautiful meal and music. On the way to a bar, we found out that there is 11 years differences between us. I'm 31, she is too young. I thought she was in her mid 20s, she thought I was in my late 20s. I was going to ask her out to come to Paris and Venice next month. After that I realized that I shouldn't ask her out. She is so young, the whole world is waiting for her, she should be happy and free. At the bar, she told me that there are people you know you shouldn't be falling love with, but you do, they cannot be lovers but they cannot be your friends either. She also just broke up with her boyfriend less than a month ago. We had one drink and left, it was really awkward after finding out the age difference. I found her a taxi, hugged each other and said goodbye, no kiss. I didn't sleep much that night, I don't know what it is, there is something about her, I felt something that I haven't felt for a very long time. It makes you feel like smiling and crying at the same time, the world looked different and limitless. Love is a strange thing. I don't even know her well, spending time with this person makes you feel happy, without fear, she made the world more beautiful. She texted me the next morning, said last night was really beautiful and I'm very kind, she wanted to take me out next week. I replied saying that it was a pleasure to get to know her. Let me know if you are free on the weekend, we can go shopping and get dinner again. She didn't reply, it has been a week and half... I'm not sure of what to do or think. Perhaps it's best to leave it as it is, obviously she doesn't want to see me or contact me, I shall respect that. Maybe I'm just writing this to let go. It's something that I will always cherish, she made me feel love again, even just for a brief moment, for a while I thought I forgot what it felt like, even in my previous relationships I didn't feel that. I wish her all the best in life, anyone would be lucky to be with her. Love is strangely beautiful. Edited July 30, 2013 by T_W
petall Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 (edited) Seems like she initially wanted to give the green light but then decided to heed her own thoughts about age difference so had a change of heart...or maybe boyfriend reappeared..... Maybe I am a born romantic but so what if she is 11 years younger? If you get along and there is great compatibility and maturity on her side, is it that much of a dealbreaker? Life is short, you don't know who is the right person for you unless you find out. I've always liked older men myself. Edited July 30, 2013 by petall 1
Author T_W Posted July 30, 2013 Author Posted July 30, 2013 Thank you. I'm not sure of what to do. Since she didn't reply to my message, it has been a week and half. I hope that we can at least be friends, but perhaps like she said, sometimes ones cannot be friends. It would be my very last intention to disrespect her and contact her if she doesn't want to do so. I meet people all the time, I have only felt like this about someone twice in my life.
Author T_W Posted July 30, 2013 Author Posted July 30, 2013 I like her for many other reasons, it doesn't matter if she is young or old, rich or poor, she made the world look more beautiful, that's all. I think it's ok if we don't see each other, it's good memory to have, just sad, I do think about her, maybe I always will.
PlumPrincess Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 You should date her, it would be awesome to be banging some fresh young girl while all your friends are stuck with ageing monsters in their thirties I didn't know men never aged. 10 years from now on, you will look back and say, "Aw, what a little a**h*** I was!"
PlumPrincess Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 T W: I think she is confused about the age, not uninterested.
PlumPrincess Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 You must be in your thirties Damn it. How did you know that?
Author T_W Posted July 30, 2013 Author Posted July 30, 2013 Perhaps so I'm, confused with age, she should be happy and free, the world is hers. I don't know why I'm writing all this, a quiet way to say goodbye I guess, since I never had a chance to do so. There is love in the world, we shouldn't stop believing that, I felt that again after I have stopped believing it, even just for a small moment. Even though I don't agree with what "brick" said, but I always respect a good "italo calvino" quote, he once said falling love is like losing the sense of space and time. It was like that with her, for a briefl moment, it felt like forever.
Author T_W Posted July 30, 2013 Author Posted July 30, 2013 Sometimes I think about contacting her. The other part of me is saying that I shouldn't. Obviously she has made up her mind. Either way I don't know what's the right thing to do. It would be my last intention to upset her.
soccerrprp Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 (edited) Perhaps so I'm, confused with age, she should be happy and free, the world is hers. I don't know why I'm writing all this, a quiet way to say goodbye I guess, since I never had a chance to do so. There is love in the world, we shouldn't stop believing that, I felt that again after I have stopped believing it, even just for a small moment. Even though I don't agree with what "brick" said, but I always respect a good "italo calvino" quote, he once said falling love is like losing the sense of space and time. It was like that with her, for a briefl moment, it felt like forever. T_W, yes, say good bye. She probably did realize that the age difference really did matter and/or she met someone else. But a week and a half w/o contact/response is almost certainly her exit stage-left. You were and are infatuated. Not love my friend. She was young, you were flattered that someone that beautiful and so much younger was attracted to you and you took that in. You were feeling good about yourself, about her...wake up, rub your eyes and clear your head. Get a cup of coffee and reality will certainly set in. You'll find someone like her again. There are many women out there like her and it's your job to continue looking for the next "dreamy" woman. I'm dating a gorgeous woman 8-yrs my junior. Never before had I dated someone younger than 5 years my junior. Everything about this woman is antithetical to my preferences and yet there is something "dreamy" about her. I'm still a little hesitant about the age difference, but she rocks! Can't dismiss her b/c of age...life is too short. Edited July 31, 2013 by soccerrprp
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Almost ten year difference between my man and I. I was 22, he was 32... Best decision I ever made was telling him I had no issue with the age difference and agreeing to coffee.
aussietigerwolf Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 You should date her, it would be awesome to be banging some fresh young girl while all your friends are stuck with ageing monsters in their thirties *turns into a werewolf and howls*
Author T_W Posted July 31, 2013 Author Posted July 31, 2013 I will turn into a werewolf and howl with you too! Nothing worse than being disrespectful to women. No matter if she is a cleaner or a queen, all women deserve the same respect. Farewell indeed, it was beautiful, whatever you call it, love, limerence, infatuation, it felt warm and peaceful, for a moment there time stopped, it is something that I will always remember. Life is too short indeed, it was like forever, what a beautiful memory to have Who knows what life brings, wish her all the best, she will have a wonderful life. I feel grateful that we shared a small measure of time together.
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