zues Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 Ok here is my story as short as i can put it, was seeing a girl who lived 3 hours away for 6 months. We met through online dating, and we both connected very well. We are both 25. Fast forward 4 months and i get a text saying she is really unhappy not seeing me enough, that's when the problems started. we decided to stay friends and we met like 5 times after that and we were very intimate. this was only the other day! so i decided to try and push for a relationship, i got every excuse possible then i just asked her to be honest she said she couldn't deal with not seeing me everyday. I then asked i want you to be honest, can you ever see yourself getting serious with me, her answer was not soon because i have stuff to deal with before i settle with someone. So im done with all those games, and now i have gone full no contact. She said she will regret this and she knows it will be to late i will have met someone else? i dont understand this women! Today is day one, im finding it really tough I loved this girl and its eating me up she was perfect to me in every way. How do you people get through this?
supaflyz Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 Well i can tell u this. U might cave in and text her in a day or two. This is normal unless you are a very emotionally strong person and can withhold your feelings. What u are feeling is completely normal. I at one time wanted some sort of pill or procedure like in the movie eternal sunshine of the spotless mind lol. It's so hard to maintain no contact in the first few weeks. You will have good and bad days. Those bad days could be really badddd where all you want to so is pick up the phone and call. Try to keep yourself busy. Go to clubs, bars, park, gym, zoo, beach,etc... U get the point. Talk to your friends. Is good to vent and let th frustrations out. 1
Author zues Posted July 30, 2013 Author Posted July 30, 2013 thanks for your reply. im getting it so touch this is actually my second go at no contact tried it a few weeks back and slipped up forgot to add that in. i have no way of contacting her even if i wanted deleted her number and blocked fbook. id like to hear from some people who got through this? if i had of known i would of felt like this i would have never wrote to her to begin with.
supaflyz Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 I've gotten through it. It's been more than 3 months. I'm much stronger now. I don't let the weak moments get to me where I do contact her. I mean I have the urge but I fight off those thoughts. You are doing a good thing by deleting her number and blocking her on facebook. I blocked my ex number too. The only downside was that I still remember her number! Try to go out and have fun. I mean actually have fun. I remembered one time when I went to the beach with a bunch of friends. We stayed over night. Everything was going fine. However, I felt lonely because everyone seems to have someone. I felt like I didn't fit in. Then we drove around the seawall at night. We happen to drive past a pleasure pier that just open a few years back. Last summer my ex wanted me to meet her their. That was when we were in the friends stage. It brought back so many memories. I always wanted to take her their when we were together. I just didn't have the money because I was a student without a job. I caved in and text and try to call her that night. Don't do what I did. That is why I said it is important that you actually have fun when you go out. thanks for your reply. im getting it so touch this is actually my second go at no contact tried it a few weeks back and slipped up forgot to add that in. i have no way of contacting her even if i wanted deleted her number and blocked fbook. id like to hear from some people who got through this? if i had of known i would of felt like this i would have never wrote to her to begin with.
Author zues Posted July 30, 2013 Author Posted July 30, 2013 thanks that message helped me more than you'll ever know. so do you think its best for me to stay single for a while now and get used to my own company before i look for someone else? the only good thing about my situation is i'll never see her ever again because she lives so far away and we have no mutual friends! In a way its a good thing but also makes me think its bad. Its just a crappy situation to be in. I tell myself i regret meeting her but i know deep down i dont i have an amazing time with her and learned alot about myself! also all my friends are in a serious relationship so its hard to go out and have fun when you have no one.
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