Michael922 Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 Okay so I'm 22 and there is this girl I've been seeing for a while but she is taking forever to come around. Here is some back story. We met in college, we had a class together and did a group project together which went well for everyone. We became friends on fb but never talked about anything that wasn't project related. A year goes by, we haven't spoken since our project. One day I made a status about how nice guys finish last and she private messages and asked me "how do I know you're a nice guy?" So we talked about relationships and how she admired nice guys. Before I know it she gives me her number and wants to hangout. So we hung out maybe 6 or 7 times as friends, out to dinner, movies, and stuff like that. So one day I told her that I really liked hanging out with her and that I was developing feelings for her. She told me that she met someone because she thought I wanted a friendship with her and not a relationship. Which is understandable because I'm a shy guy and I didn't make any moves or sexual advances on her. So I let her slip through my fingers. During her relationship I told her that I missed her and she said she missed me too but she was in a relationship and that she was sorry. A few weeks go by and I get a text from her saying that she's sorry for how things ended and she wanted to hang out again. I found out she broke up with her boyfriend. So now we are seeing each other again. We have hung out maybe 4 or 5 times since. I finally gathered the courage to kiss her and I thought it was the best feeling kiss I've ever had. We had the conversation that we are both "seeing each other exclusively". This went on for a couple weeks so one night she took me to the drive in theater and as we were laying in the back of her jeep, I told her I wanted to be committed to her and to call her my girlfriend. She said that she has a few issues with that right now. She said that she's extremely busy (she is and works 70hrs a week) and that its going to be hard to find time right now, and she said she wants to take things slow and not rush anything. She told me that she rushed with her last boyfriend and that's why it didn't work. I supported her decision to take things slow and she dropped me off at my car and I said goodnight without kissing her. She texted me and said that she hoped that she didn't discourage me and that she was sorry if she upset me. I told her i appreciated her honesty. So that was about a week ago and we've been talking like normal. The usual flirty stuff but the amount we talk is always severely limited. Maybe 10 texts a day. I haven't seen her in 9 days and miss her a lot. I guess my question is how do I approach this, I'm afraid to ask her to hang out because I know she's busy most of the time but I can't stand not seeing her. Please give me some advice, any advice or ask any questions that you need to if I left anything out. Thank you and any advice is appreciated.
Philosoraptor Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 Seems like she has pretty much been open and honest about her boundaries. You can either respect them and continue this slow path, or move on and find someone who wants to move a little faster. You guys are still talking every day, so she's making time to talk to you even with her 70 hour work week. All you can do is come up with a plan and ask her on another date.
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