MrTurk Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 I know 4 guys personally that are now married, with kids, and are in loving relationships with their wives. BUT . . . All 4 of those women....hated there husbands when they first met them. Each woman either worked at a bar, restaraunt, or retail store, when they met their man. I was with 2 of the guys the day they met the women. And the guys acted like typical jerk males, with supper arrogance, and rude cracks towards the women. But of course....as it seems to happen so many times.....in each case, the guy would keep visiting. At first the women didnt even want to see the guys, or wait on our table. But slowly, the walls came down, and with more visits, the banter back and forth became more flirtatious.....which would eventually lead to a date. Here I am trying to be nice to women....getting shot down....I never knew I shoulda just walked in and made fun of her instead...and then use reverse psychology and apologies to trick her into a date. Dummy me As I said...I know 4 couples that met this way. How many do all of you know?? Because I hear this sort of thing all the time.
Author MrTurk Posted July 30, 2013 Author Posted July 30, 2013 Well, try it. Report back. LOL Naw, thats just not my style.
Divasu Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 I did. He was very arrogant when we first met (I was around 18 I think) and, he didn't care for me much either. We exchanged unpleasantries, and went our separate ways. I bumped into him a year later, and we started dating. He actually turned out to be a pretty terrific boyfriend, very caring and loving.
MissBee Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 I don't know any. I do know there was one guy,back in high school, whom I hated, who was extremely rude to me all the time, until one day, he attempted to ask me if I was dating someone else, and he kept fishing around me then admitted he liked me . Basically he was some immature jerk, who liked me all along but like a 5 year old didn't know how to show it besides being mean. I however, turned him down when he tried to ask if I'd go out with him. Oh please, after ALL that? Yeah right! I had a love-hate relationship with the guy I lost my virginity to...it was crazy sexual chemistry but outside of the bedroom we could barely get along, although later that changed, as he stopped being such an a-hole over time. I did not end up loving or dating him seriously though. So in my own experience I've never hated a guy and then come to love him or be in a real relationship with him and can't think of any stories among my friends where that was the case.
tbf Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 I too strongly disliked the ex-husband upon first meet and greet. He spent two years chasing me, getting into my social and close work circles. I finally agreed to date him where we fell in love and got married. He cheated on me. First instinct was bang on. Had a hail mary eureka moment with my husband upon first meet and greet. There was something rock solid about him, where I felt I could trust him right away. He's amazing and continues to be so, over 4.5 years later. First instinct bang on!
Author MrTurk Posted July 30, 2013 Author Posted July 30, 2013 So basically what this shows me....is that some women can be worn down, as long as the guy has enough contact with her....regardless of how he acts. I would think, that if a guy treats a woman bad initially, that would be a deal breaker, and remain a deal breaker forever. Not forget about what a d*ck he was, and now its OK to date him. I think that tactic may actually work better than just being nice and approaching her in a normal way right from the start. Because being a moron....and then changing your ways, makes her think "Oh look how much he matured". Its a total mind f*ck trying to find out how to get a date from my point of view....because everyone out there is doing the total opposite of what women say they want in a guy....yet they all get dates, get laid, and have fun.
tbf Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 regardless of how he acts.No. Not liking someone at the outset doesn't mean they acted like an ass. It's impossible to quantify gut instinct where as a guess on my part, it surrounds the subconscious reading of body language. The ex-husband treated me extremely well, wooing and pursuing and throughout our marriage, beyond living a double life of a cheater that his family and friends didn't know about. He's a very sexy man that women flock to. But then, he's also a confident man, one who's charming, polished, witty and flirtatious so it's no surprise that the ladies adore him. My friends were surprised that I wasn't impressed at the get-go, couldn't understand my aversion. Post separation after D-day, he was clinically diagnosed with NPD.
thefooloftheyear Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 So basically what this shows me....is that some women can be worn down, as long as the guy has enough contact with her....regardless of how he acts. I Dont bank on that, bro... TFY
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