Sallygirl Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 How do you know if they are giving you breadcrumbs, or if they are slowly starting to try to reach back out?? So, as some of you know I work with my ex. I had to see him Friday for a work related issue. He works in IT and set up a laptop for me. He had to show me how to get to some of the terminal servers, and when he booted up the computer, I saw that he had put a picture of my favorite baseball player as the background picture. As much as I tried not to, I laughed out loud and said that was good. It did bother me a little, because I think he was doing it to be cute and also because now when I log on, I'll think of him. At least that is what he thinks. I've already changed the picture. The rest of the time he tried to make conversation about personal issues (ex I'm moving soon) but I kept answers brief. (Earlier in the week be had emailed about the work thing but also asked personal questions. I ignored them and only answered the work questions. his emails then went back to only addressing work questions in a professional way). He asked how my day was and I said good, but didn't ask how his was. As a result, we had some awkward silences happening. I was ok with it. When he was done, I said thanks and walked away. About an hour later, I get the following email: It was nice to see you. You look really good. I hope work gets better and they can get rid of some of your work load. I waited until right before I left and replied: Thanks, I'm sure it will. Have a good weekend. If I didn't work with him, I wouldn't have replied at all, but I do, so I am trying to keep things professional, since I have to deal with him. I have gone NC with him (blocked everything, etc.) except when we have to communicate at work, and the three times he's stopped by my work area. The NC as been happening now for about 6 weeks. He has avoided my work area for the last month, until last week. Now he is walking by all of the time. I cannot figure out his intentions. And as much as I don't want it to, this has completely messed with my head. Is this breadcrumbs or him trying to restart US?
Minneloa Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 This is the married man who also cheated on you, correct? With all due respect, why would you want to return to that situation?
Author Sallygirl Posted July 30, 2013 Author Posted July 30, 2013 This is the married man who also cheated on you, correct? With all due respect, why would you want to return to that situation? I'm not sure I do. Right now in just trying to figure out what his intentions are. Is he playing a game? Is he oblivious to how much he hurt me? Is he trying to slide back into my life? If didn't work with him, I would be 100% no contact. It's just so hard seeing him...
Minneloa Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 I am not sure what his intentions are, but I would focus on what *you* want. Rather than react to his behavior, choose your own course of action. I know it is more difficult because you work with him, but if you want him out of your life, keep ignoring anything that isn't work-related. Given his marital status and past behavior, I think a resounding "Next!" is in order.
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