Audrey12 Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Hi everyone, I have had my share of relationships, with varying intensity and duration. Some of them have ended amicably, some not talking again, and unfortunately some involved violence. My latest relationship, while short, and over, has bothered me, purely because I cant understand his reactions and behaviours. Unlike any of the men I have been with before (not in a good way), and I want some perspective on whether my behaviour is attracting these types of men or if Ive just had bad luck. Him and I Met late last year, really liked each other, things moved fast. Went to stay with him for a month recently where he lives. He had promised to show me around, bring me out places, generally have a good time? None of this happened due to supposed financial situation, he kept online chatting with girls I voiced dislike about, yet got borderline violently jealous if I spoke to men extendedly. Kicked me out of his house twice because I complained I was bored and was getting irritated by his family (lives with his mom) I tried to take initiative in doing things but was unable to do them without assistance (travel), he promised he would change etc, nothing ever did. Claimed I couldnt satisfy him sexually due to his medication, but later in an argument called my body disgusting. I had been initially attracted to his intelligence and creativity, but found him incredibly lazy, a mummys boy, makes excuses for all of his failings, incredibly rarely keeps his promises, and only beginning to view his life as something he can control. Yet he is very fond of calling me insane. And he rang me up today with his first line being 'have you slept with anyone yet'. Im currently ill, and his caring for this is minimal. Im glad its over, and Im glad he lives so far away, I just want to understand these attributes so I dont end up with someone like that again. (If he is to read this, he'll know Im talking about him, but I really dont care now sorry!)
very_confused_011 Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 Work on your own self-esteem, and do not settle for anything less than you deserve. When you have confidence in yourself, you will not put up with that kind of behaviour. No one deserves to be treated that way, he was disrespectful to you, and doesn't sound like much of a catch anyway. 1
Author Audrey12 Posted July 30, 2013 Author Posted July 30, 2013 Yes I know I need to work on my self esteem, I am. And with help from people I love. Thank you
Inviv_girl Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 Hi everyone, I have had my share of relationships, with varying intensity and duration. Some of them have ended amicably, some not talking again, and unfortunately some involved violence. My latest relationship, while short, and over, has bothered me, purely because I cant understand his reactions and behaviours. Unlike any of the men I have been with before (not in a good way), and I want some perspective on whether my behaviour is attracting these types of men or if Ive just had bad luck. Him and I Met late last year, really liked each other, things moved fast. Went to stay with him for a month recently where he lives. He had promised to show me around, bring me out places, generally have a good time? None of this happened due to supposed financial situation, he kept online chatting with girls I voiced dislike about, yet got borderline violently jealous if I spoke to men extendedly. Kicked me out of his house twice because I complained I was bored and was getting irritated by his family (lives with his mom) I tried to take initiative in doing things but was unable to do them without assistance (travel), he promised he would change etc, nothing ever did. Claimed I couldnt satisfy him sexually due to his medication, but later in an argument called my body disgusting. I had been initially attracted to his intelligence and creativity, but found him incredibly lazy, a mummys boy, makes excuses for all of his failings, incredibly rarely keeps his promises, and only beginning to view his life as something he can control. Yet he is very fond of calling me insane. And he rang me up today with his first line being 'have you slept with anyone yet'. Im currently ill, and his caring for this is minimal. Im glad its over, and Im glad he lives so far away, I just want to understand these attributes so I dont end up with someone like that again. (If he is to read this, he'll know Im talking about him, but I really dont care now sorry!) So glad you finished with that dude, he is not worth it! What kind of men called his gf body disgusting! run girl and never come back! You deserve someone better really
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