One year after break up

[spaniard]

I have to tell you, I completely forgot about this forum long ago. I used to check it a couple of times every day in the first few months after the BU, but as I got better, I visited the site less and less frequently until it completely went out of my mind.

 

My story short: I was together with a girl for 9 months or so, then she asked for a 3 week break which resulted in a break up. She told me that she wasn't in love with me anymore and there is absolutely 0 chance for us to be together again. I instantly went NC and haven't contacted her ever since. She tried to contact me a few times, but I was strong enough not to reply to her anything more than a few cold words.

 

It was terrible in the first weeks and months, I lost like 10 kgs, I even cried, but I went through all of this 6 years ago so I KNEW that it would be over.

 

I followed the routine: I joined the gym, started to read articles about how to be a man. I became obsessed with this overly manliness thing, which may sound ridicoulous, but it did help me get through the darkest hours. I started to run, eat healthy food, watch manly movies (300, Gladiator etc). A break up can clearly devastate one's self-esteem, and for me it was completely true - so I really needed to reinvent myself to feel that I'm on the top of the food chain. Thank God, my friends also helped me a lot, they knew that I was struggling and never declined any of my request to have a beer or two.

 

That was last summer. Now in 2013, one year after the BU, I'm much healthier, stronger and faster, and I have more self-esteem than before the BU. And I'm no longer in love

 

It took 8-9 months to get over her completely. It was just today when I realized that I haven't checked her FB profile for a very long time. I haven't even thought about her for weeks, which, compared to the fact that I used to check her FB page like 60 times an hour, pretty cool. She has a boyfriend now, who is a swimmer. She was also very much into swimming (I never really like it, as a skydiver I'm more like the air guy ). I also have a sort-of-girlfriend, we are not there yet, because I really appreciate the freedom I have now.

 

Almost a year ago I posted a picture that inspired me a lot. Here it is:

 

http://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/u/4953421/1277244843601.gif

 

And I opened a topic about how to handle a break up like a man (like a said, I was obsessed with it ). Maybe it can useful to some of you.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/344644-how-handle-break-up-man-woman

 

Well, I hope you will all get through this (you will!). I opened this thread because I read so many sad topics (which is quite understandable), maybe my story will be an inspiration that these negative feelings definitely go away.

 

Best of luck.

 

Regards,

spaniard (yes, I chose my nick from the movie Gladiator)

[alexdublin]

Hey

 

This really gives me hope.

 

Thanks for posting

 

Xx

[winstonsdreams]

Great to hear mate, I was like you used to check this site daily, now come on here every now and then to offer support.

 

I do remember your posts, you have grown heaps and it gives hope to us all.

 

I like the part about reading articles regarding manliness, I have done the same and it helps. You have to remember to be strong no matter what.

 

Well done!

[jesse93]

this is truly an inspiration, i've been having a rough time and today i finally decided to hit the gym, it has helped me very much already even just working out once it helped me get my mind off of her and forget about her for the time being. I'm glad things are going well for you man and i hope it continues to go that way thanks a lot

[NomiMalone]

This came to me on a day I'm feeling low. Thank you.