How would you handle this situation?

[academicmoss]

My boyfriend of 3 years is wanting to get my name tatted on his body. He's 35 and I'm 31. He has about 10 tats total throughout his body, but none that represent anyone he's dated previously and is absolutely certain I'm "the one" he wants to represent. I've asked him not to just because, I don't really even know why, but he's pretty set on this idea. Anyway, he has a friend who is a great artist and will do it for free. My boyfriend text me earlier and said he went to see him and came up with the idea of a liquor bottle with my name on it "jen", instead of gin. I don't even know what to say. I love my boyfriend to death but I feel like this is so stupid. I haven't text him back yet because I don't know what to say.

[smile1983]

Well, it is his body and he can do with it what he likes. That being said you have a right to tell him if something he does will make him less attractive in your eyes since you are in a relationship with him. I would talk to him, tell him your feelings on the subject and then let him make his own decision. After all, if you guys break up, he's the one getting a tattoo removed, not you.

[white]

Uh. I think tattoos are retarded full stop.

 

I should probably not post here, then.

 

 

 

Carry on.

[academicmoss]

Thanks for the replies. I've told him I'm not that fond of him having my name on him but he's convinced he wants this, but for some reason I'm having a hard time not turning this into a big deal. A part of me thinks he's just stuck in the moment like, "oh i'm getting Jen's name, I love her so much and can't wait to show it", and not really thinking about what if we break up in the future and he's left with this huge ass tat with my name on it. He knows how I feel about it but at the same time I know he's expecting me to be flattered and supportive. I find him, and tats, totally sexy but I can't really pinpoint what about this I don't like, but for some reason it's buggin' me.

[bentleychic]

No! Just nooooo! I have many body modifications including tattoos. I would never, ever, ever recommend putting someone's name on your body permanently unless it's a kid or parent and even THAT is questionable to me. (Though I am considering getting my kids birth dates in roman numerals.) I don't know of any reputable tattoo artists that are interested in anything other than money that would suggest it, either.

 

Perhaps suggest something that reminds him of you, but NOT your name?

 

And then have him watch America's Worst Tattoos before he decides anything. ;-)

[academicmoss]

No! Just nooooo! I have many body modifications including tattoos. I would never, ever, ever recommend putting someone's name on your body permanently unless it's a kid or parent and even THAT is questionable to me. (Though I am considering getting my kids birth dates in roman numerals.) I don't know of any reputable tattoo artists that are interested in anything other than money that would suggest it, either.

 

Perhaps suggest something that reminds him of you, but NOT your name?

 

And then have him watch America's Worst Tattoos before he decides anything. ;-)

 

We've already done that a couple years ago. My favorite flower is a daisy so he'll bring me a daisy bouquet every once in awhile, instead of the usual roses, and I got the flower tatted on me with his Aries sign as the stem of the flower. In return, he got Thor's hammer wrapped in my Gemini sign. This is a great reminder, at least I thought so, but it clearly isn't enough for him. He wants my NAME and is looking for ways to incorporate that into something. I don't know how to be supportive here.

[bentleychic]

We've already done that a couple years ago. My favorite flower is a daisy so he'll bring me a daisy bouquet every once in awhile, instead of the usual roses, and I got the flower tatted on me with his Aries sign as the stem of the flower. In return, he got Thor's hammer wrapped in my Gemini sign. This is a great reminder, at least I thought so, but it clearly isn't enough for him. He wants my NAME and is looking for ways to incorporate that into something. I don't know how to be supportive here.

 

Gah. Well, he is bent on it so he'll probably do it and anything you say will probably make him think you're thinking no future. haha My bf and I joke about getting tattoos in...uhhh...certain spots marking territory, but it would NEVER happen. It's purely a complete and total joke.

 

Also, I'll say there was one guy that I was VERY attracted to and he had a fab tattoo on his arm that said LOVE in another language. I thought how sweet...and then found out his former wife and he got matching ones for an anniversary. Kind of a turn off then.

[Treasa]

Well, let's put it this way...while you're with him, he will have your name on his body. If you break up, not your problem to worry about, right?

 

Just make sure they spell your name right if they do this.

[MidwestUSA]

Well, let's put it this way...while you're with him, he will have your name on his body. If you break up, not your problem to worry about, right?

 

Just make sure they spell your name right if they do this.

 

And if they break up, he'll be forced to seek out only girls named 'Jen'. Narrows the pool a bit, but, not HER problem.

[bentleychic]

And if they break up, he'll be forced to seek out only girls named 'Jen'. Narrows the pool a bit, but, not HER problem.

 

Or he can get a cover up.

[shexy]

If he wants to do it, it's his body. If you guys break up, it's his problem not yours

[sdraw108]

Maybe you're feeling uneasy because this implies he's thinking of marriage, and you're not ready for that level of commitment (and maybe a little scared at the thought that he is)?

 

That's the best reason I can think of for why you might be so bothered by this.