Spoonss Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Ok so my ex gf broke up with me we had a 5 year relationship. She started dating some one soon after, went on a trip to asia for 40 days she then sent me a message saying "she had time to think while she was over there" and would like if we could go for dinner when she gets back. Its been a week and I havent responded, at first it didnt bother me. But now I really am starting to wonder what she wants. What does this mean usually when the dumper wants to meet up?
forgetmenot75 Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Before agreeing to go dinner with her, try to get some more hints. Is she willing to start something again with you? What does she wants? Does she want to talk about her trip? Or does she seriously want you back?
Author Spoonss Posted July 29, 2013 Author Posted July 29, 2013 (edited) I do want her back. I didnt think I was still in love with her but I am. The thing is I am scared that I will get hurt. But the thing thats throwing me off is why would she want to go for dinner? Also as far as I know she is dating some one still. This just sucks it feels like my heart is breaking again right now. Edited July 29, 2013 by Spoonss
Author Spoonss Posted July 29, 2013 Author Posted July 29, 2013 Ok but she isnt back for another 20 days, so I dont know man I am confused as ****. She is also dating some one else. But if shes dating some one else why would she want to meet up with me for dinner? That seems ****ed . "I've had a lot of time to think while over here and I'd really like if we could go for coffee or dinner when I get back"
forgetmenot75 Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 If she's dating someone else, you already have the answer there. she doesn't want you back, she only wants to catch up with you. I wouldn't reply to her message and I'd stay No contact.
CptSaveAho Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Ok but she isnt back for another 20 days, so I dont know man I am confused as ****. She is also dating some one else. But if shes dating some one else why would she want to meet up with me for dinner? That seems ****ed . Impressive observation.. it is! Personally, I enjoy meeting up with girls that are single 2
Author Spoonss Posted July 29, 2013 Author Posted July 29, 2013 It still is kind of mind ****ing me I know I am retarded. Its that hope that gets us all in the end.
jesse93 Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 It still is kind of mind ****ing me I know I am retarded. Its that hope that gets us all in the end. don't fall for that "Hope" i fell for the hope, and it ended up hurting me more in the end, stay NC man if she has a boyfriend currently whats the point of even going to dinner with her? she probably just wants to catch up to see how you're doing, maybe to see if you're doing better without her. but holding onto hope won't do you any good, thats what i've come to learn the hard way.
Author Spoonss Posted July 30, 2013 Author Posted July 30, 2013 don't fall for that "Hope" i fell for the hope, and it ended up hurting me more in the end, stay NC man if she has a boyfriend currently whats the point of even going to dinner with her? she probably just wants to catch up to see how you're doing, maybe to see if you're doing better without her. but holding onto hope won't do you any good, thats what i've come to learn the hard way. Our relationship, we where both first loves very intense sexually for the whole time. Emotionally intense. Everytime we where appart it was like a magnet pulling us back together. I dont know if shes feeling that again or what since we have never been appart for this long. I however wasnt until I got this message out of nowhere. Just memories are flooding back in today. I do love her so I am in a really weird place.
robaday Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 Id delay it by a couple of months, tell her you gotta work outta town, or your busy.....this will give you time to get yourself clear headed. Also if she has a change of heart, it will give her time to sort that through in her head - if she really wanted you she would wait. Spend the time working out what you want, working out and looking amazing! If she still wants to meet, awesome, if not no harm done This way you have nothing to lose at all - your not with her now
Author Spoonss Posted July 30, 2013 Author Posted July 30, 2013 Id delay it by a couple of months, tell her you gotta work outta town, or your busy.....this will give you time to get yourself clear headed. Also if she has a change of heart, it will give her time to sort that through in her head - if she really wanted you she would wait. Spend the time working out what you want, working out and looking amazing! If she still wants to meet, awesome, if not no harm done This way you have nothing to lose at all - your not with her now This is true we have already been split for 3 months. would you say the best course of action in this situation would be to play it very cautious or just straight out say that I still have feelings for her? Id rather not have to pussy foot for months.,
robaday Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 Dont say you still have feelings for her. You might fall in love with the girl in Tescos counter tomorrow! Just carry on being single and try not to make a big deal out of it - best approach is not to care either way, that will drive her insane. Trick is - convince yourself she aint coming back and that there is no way in hell you will ever get back together.
Author Spoonss Posted July 30, 2013 Author Posted July 30, 2013 Dont say you still have feelings for her. You might fall in love with the girl in Tescos counter tomorrow! Just carry on being single and try not to make a big deal out of it - best approach is not to care either way, that will drive her insane. Trick is - convince yourself she aint coming back and that there is no way in hell you will ever get back together. alright man its her bday thursday should I say **** to her or just ignore it?
robaday Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 I wouldnt. Shes abroad right? She broke up with you right? She has another guy right? If its important she will let you know.......wishing her a happy birthday will not make any difference apart from keep you hoping and allow her to know you are still there for her. You are too dependent on the outcome of this which is why I think you should continue NC, you can talk to her when your ready, no rush man......I mean it took her forty days to get in touch with you......
Confused_Soul_23 Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 How long have you been no contact for before you got that message?
Author Spoonss Posted August 5, 2013 Author Posted August 5, 2013 (edited) I broke nc with my ex after she sent me a message saying she wanted to meet up. I found out nothing has changed and she just wanted to say sorry for what she did. I am crumbling today because I miss her so much and love her. May i also add that I turn into a complete little girl when I talk to her. Its so embarassing now and I just want to rip my own heart out. I hate this **** Edited August 5, 2013 by Spoonss
JDPT Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Don't be so hard on yourself, we have all done it at some point. Dust yourself off and get back on that saddle, learn from this experience, reflect on it and move forward full force. The last thing you want to do is dwell on this, leave it in that past, move forward and never look back.
Mrfr Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Don't beat yourself, you're only human! We're all here for each other, be strong you can do this!
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