flower132 Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Hi, my boyfriend has had two relationships and i am the second he has had. His first girlfriend was a snob and tried to change him into something he was not. despite this he loved her. she ended up breaking up with him and she now has a new boyfriend. When i met him i was just out of a long abusive relationship myself so we both shared intimate details of our exes, and helped each other move on, and eventually fell in love. when i first met him he was heartbroken over her and had gone back to her numerous times only to be disappointed again and again. We had a near perfect relationship. no drama, no fighting etc, and he often said that I was his first love, not her, as i accepted him for who he really was and he could be himself around me. however one day he went to say 'I love you' to my face, but said 'i LOVE YOU ****' with his exes name, not mine. what does this mean? does he still have feelings for her?
hotpotato Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Hi, my boyfriend has had two relationships and i am the second he has had. His first girlfriend was a snob and tried to change him into something he was not. despite this he loved her. she ended up breaking up with him and she now has a new boyfriend. When i met him i was just out of a long abusive relationship myself so we both shared intimate details of our exes, and helped each other move on, and eventually fell in love. when i first met him he was heartbroken over her and had gone back to her numerous times only to be disappointed again and again. We had a near perfect relationship. no drama, no fighting etc, and he often said that I was his first love, not her, as i accepted him for who he really was and he could be himself around me. however one day he went to say 'I love you' to my face, but said 'i LOVE YOU ****' with his exes name, not mine. what does this mean? does he still have feelings for her? He very well could have feelings for her. Feelings for someone else dont always go away even if you date other people. Honestly, from what I've seen it's usually not a good idea to bounce from one relationship right into another. People are vulnerable and often trying to move on before they are emotionally ready. Are you sure she was a snob? There are always two sides to a story. If he's been comparing you to her, his attention is still on her. Have you seen her? You might even look like her!
courtnee Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 If that's all he did to make you thinking she's on his mind, then no I wouldn't think much of it. However, easier said than done. I can see this happening to me and stewing about it and being furious, even if it was a mistake. If he talks about her, defends her, or does this often then you need to run!
EvansR Posted July 30, 2013 Posted July 30, 2013 I've made this mistake before myself, and my (now ex) girlfriend forgave me for it. I really didn't have any feelings for her, but she'd crossed my mind and it just came out. You know how in school there's that one kid who called the teacher 'mom'. It's a similar situation if you ask me, and just a mistake. Hope this helps! 1
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