flutterfly Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 (edited) Here is my situation. I was in a r/s (LDR) with a man who professed his love. We would meet once in 2 months but video chat and call everyday. All was going well. He proposed marriage within 3 months. We had trivial arguements and then these became often. Although i really loved him, his controlling, judgmental and angry behavior compelled me to I tried to break up with him a few times. But my love for him pulled me back, and he would always tell me how much he loved me and that he cannot live without me and will not marry anyone if not me. Eventually we decided to get married within the next 6 months. Our families met and we were to get engaged within 3 months. All seemed perfectly fine, but i felt uncomfortable when i met his parents. They seemed a bit domineering and my exbf was a mama's boy, hence his mom did not seem too happy about me. When i said the same to him we had another terrible fight, he abused me for the (second time). I called broke up with him the very evening. A week later we again began to consider working on the issues. Since then he changed drastically. He told me that he informed his parents that the r/s is w.i.p. Next 5 months i witnessed his pull- push, regular anger outbursts on phone, yelling at me, rarely said that he loved me, silent treatment. I Emotionally bonded so strong in this r/s because he never seemed to give up on us neither work on his issues. He got to know that one of my family friend's son was showing serious interest in me and this friend was my family friends. He began to blame me that i was seeeing other guys when i was not. I reassured him several times that I loved only him and no matter what will marry him. I will fight for us. One day i discovered he had been lying and hiding a few things from me - his mom wanted him to move on and raised questions on my character. And that he already asked his parents to start looking suitors for him. When i confronted he blamed me for intruding his space and snooping into his emails. He began to ignore me, push me away and asked me to never return to meet him ever again. He told me he no longer has conviction in the r/s and love is not important to him any more. He told me that he will not marry a girl (me) when she was ready to get married. He wanted to get married ASAP, was in a rush because he was already 33yrs old (Indian). 2 months later he met a girl through his family friends' network, and got engaged and married to her within 3 months of meeting her. He went NC within 2 weeks of the breakup. Too many questions, but i know i will never get the answers from him. Edited July 29, 2013 by flutterfly
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