stansmam Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Hi, Ive been with my bf for around a year now. At first, we were fantastic, really made for each other. Then a mixture of him being on medication that affected him and me being isolated (i had a fall out with all my mates and moved to a new area), we started to really argue. I feel like i made him my world and lost sight of who i was. We started testing the water on breaking up with each other a few months ago. After thinking about it, i do it to see if he comes back. He broke up with me a couple of days before i moved in with him and then admitted that he was testing my love for him Its continued being up and down, my confidence has gone and it seems his has too. I did it again last week and slept in the spare room but we made up the next day. Then on saturday (2days before i started a new job!!!) he finished with me. It seemed very real. He discussed money, living etc. Said there was no way of getting back. He refused t say he didnt love me tho. So, ive been a mess all weekend, devestated n pissed off that i had my 1st day of my new job ruined. So i decided t take the power back. I messaged him (he was at work) basically saying that i apologised for not being myself, i am intent on getting myself back whether that be with him or without him and id like to make a go of it knowing what i kknow now but im not prepared to go back to the relationship i had before and i would walk away. Well.... his reply was along the lines of "id hate for u t walk away, get yourself right and come home" wtf!!!??? He dumped ME now hes saying he doesnt want me t walk sway??!! So, today, ive not seen him so i txt asking how he was feeling n he said he felt nothing. Which was a bit gutting. So i got canny pissed of and sent him a txt saying "i refuse to be pissed about. He needs to make up his mind. Ive laid it down. I will go back if he is prepared t make a go of it and us get our own lives n not have the relationship we had before. But i have started my dream job thats taken me years and no one is going to piss me about n ruin it!" So, ive stood up to him finally! And his reply was go away, sort yourself out and come home. I just dont know if hes arsed or not! (Im staying with family this week) i know ive acted badly n i want t get back t being myself n i know how good our relationship is wen we are good. Wtf do i do??!! I dont want t chuck it away but i dont want to be messed about.
Philosoraptor Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Way too many games being played. If either of you are ever going to maintain any relationship, you both need to mature and stop with all of these "testing your love" games. Unless the two of you can have a real talk about this and make a change... this relationship is never going to work no matter how "good" it might be some of the time. 1
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