cethegreat Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Well to start off I dated my ex for a year and a half and in that year and a half we always loved each other, the only reason it didnt work out was because we were both going through big personal issues and the timing of our relationship was bad, I was 20 and she was 18. Oh and we lived 2 hours apart so that was an issue also, but we made it work. So we have been apart now for a year and a half and havent spoken since the break up. (It wasnt a bad break up at all) So now here we are a year and a half later and she has been dating this other guy for almost a year now. We recently started talking and met up yesterday. Without me even asking she kept telling me how annoying her BF is and how he uses her money and time (things I NEVER did) she is moving away to Mammoth mountain in 3 weeks and they will be 6 hours apart so she knows its ending and told me that (I just kept saying it sucks that its not gonna work out between them). Now we still get a long, in fact yesterday made me realize again why we loved each other so much, because we are pretty much best friends, we simply just don't get along with other people as good as we get along with each other, but we also love each other. She also told me her mom still loves me and her brothers tell her all the time to take me back cause I was the best guy she ever had. Well funny thing is, is that I was looking toward moving up to Mammoth all on my own to live up there and snowboard. She told me to come visit her when she moves up there. So pretty much based on yesterday she was making it obvious she still likes me and wished it could have worked out better for us and that she knew our relationship was just bad timing, she was also very touchy feeley with me, no kissing or anything, but long, close hugs and she just kept touching me a lot! But now we have the chance to start fresh and actually have it work out better than before. I want to try again with her because no matter how much I don't want to admit it, she is my best friend and the best girl I ever dated, I want to get her back and start fresh with her, but I also don't want to come off to eager to get back with her. What should I do? My plan is just to stay out of her life until she moves up to Mammoth, let her have a few weeks up there being single or figuring out her BF situation and then take a visit and take it from there. What would you do in my situation?
Destromarch Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 I think your plan looks solid, tho I wouldn't overanalyze her behaviour. You haven't seen each other for a very long time and like you said, you were best friends once. First of all, you are her comfort zone. You have a history. It is not that hard to get comfortable around people who knows you really well. Do not be her rebound guy. If you want to establish a relationship again, you should probably go LC and proceed from there but you must wait and stay away untill she breaks up with her boyfriend. Don't be her reason for a breakup because she might do that. When terms are right and you both move to that place, I guess you guys might have a shot again.
Author cethegreat Posted July 30, 2013 Author Posted July 30, 2013 I think your plan looks solid, tho I wouldn't overanalyze her behaviour. You haven't seen each other for a very long time and like you said, you were best friends once. First of all, you are her comfort zone. You have a history. It is not that hard to get comfortable around people who knows you really well. Do not be her rebound guy. If you want to establish a relationship again, you should probably go LC and proceed from there but you must wait and stay away untill she breaks up with her boyfriend. Don't be her reason for a breakup because she might do that. When terms are right and you both move to that place, I guess you guys might have a shot again. I agree, thats why I'm not gonna let myself get carried away with my emotions and think she wants me back at the drop of a dime, but on the other hand she didn't do or say anything to make me feel like we're "just friends", there was def something more. I'm just gonna do NC until I know she's moved up there and been there a couple of weeks and then just give her a friendly ring and just say something like "Hey, I saw your up in Mammoth now on your Instagram and I wanted to take you up on your offer to come visit you up there and check it out." And then I'll just take it slowly from there and tread lightly on letting my feelings run away with me.
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