Am i putting my ex on padestal or does she sound really cool? be honest.

[youcanever]

Friends,

 

I still can't get over my ex. It was only 5 months relationship and it has been 8 weeks since breakup. It doesnt hurt as first days but still î miss her and the idea of she will be with someone else is killing me.

 

I want to write her traits and personality and please give me objective and honest comments about her. I will also be %100 true about her traîts.

 

She is 19. Studies economics and it is her secınd year in collage. She loves jazz music, she sings jazz music. She had riding glider lessons in past. She plays harmonica. She worked part time at zara as a sales consultant now she quit so she can go and travel germany and amsterdam for 2 weeks with her best frind. She has friends and she is so cute. She has lots of great future plans like erasmus, work and travel etc.

 

Now about personality. She is so independent and so strong. In our relationship she never cared what i wanted and told thats the way she likes it. She is selfish ( she tells that too, even she told that her parents say it). She is dominant bu if she loves someone she does good things to her bf too. She was icr in the beginning on our relationship then she changed.

 

Isnt she so cool? I feel like i will never find a girl like her ever. I miss her and want another shot with her.

 

I just cant truly move on. She is way too cute. I miss kissing her cheeks.

 

What is wrong with me?

[mysterymissgreeneyes]

Hey,

Don't worry. I promise there are a lot of cute n cool girls out there.

I'm not suggesting anything, but I myself played in jazz band, I study International relations, have traveled extensively and plan to travel for work, etc.

I'm only saying that I am SURE you will find someone else just as cool or cooler and who maybe even isn't selfish? Just sayin.

Try to put her out of your mind for now, and if she floats back to you then you can try again. But you will be more appealing (to her/others) and better-off mentally and emotionally if you do your best to move on with your own stuff. Good luck bud

[supaflyz]

A lot of people think their ex is special especially the dumpee. I get what you are saying. It's a normal process. You haven't accepted it yet. I too at one point thought that my ex was the most beautiful woman. She is smart and nice, and caring. However, there are also some bad traits about her too. I was very angry and pis- off at her after the breakup for what she did. She made other people around us seem like I'm some type of fake person and being insincere. However, that is the past. You must learn to forgive and accept it. I'm over it but sometimes I still have feelings of hatred towards her for what she did. It will subside eventually as well.

 

There are plenty of woman out there. You just have to get them! I know right now you are probably thinking I have to put all the effort into finding a new person again. That is why breaking up with someone is so hard. You get use to doing things together. You may rely on them to do some stuff for you. You miss the companionship and sex. You miss someone to talk to and be there for you. You could always build new memories with a new person. It is only logical.

[Emilia]

In our relationship she never cared what i wanted and told thats the way she likes it. She is selfish ( she tells that too, even she told that her parents say it). She is dominant bu if she loves someone she does good things to her bf too. She was icr in the beginning on our relationship then she changed.

 

[.....]

 

What is wrong with me?

You are hooked on emotionally unavailable women.

[youcanever]

This isn't love dude, it's obsession.

 

You can't get over her because you don't want to. I don't care how awesome she is, she's a chick. There are plenty of us. Do you think listing her traits is going to make responders to this thread say "Absolutely, carry a torch for this girl for the rest of your life, because that's it for you."

 

Get. Real.

 

I can't make you get over her, but I do want you to do something for me. Stop saying "can't" like you're helpless, because you aren't. This isn't out of your control. You're making a conscious decision to wallow in your break up, so there is no "can't" about it. You refuse to let her go. The list you've written could describe some of my muso friends. Hell, some of it could describe me...

 

That was harsh but very true. Yes ofcourse there are girls like her and even better. She was so tiring and so dominant. Even after 8 weeks i think about those days and i feel the tiring moods she had.

 

Also yes mine is not love. I dont love her. But the idea of she will love someone and especially she will sleep with another guy hurts me. If i get rid of this thought i wouldn even think about her.

 

Any idea how to get this sick thought out of my head?

[youcanever]

Hey,

Don't worry. I promise there are a lot of cute n cool girls out there.

I'm not suggesting anything, but I myself played in jazz band, I study International relations, have traveled extensively and plan to travel for work, etc.

I'm only saying that I am SURE you will find someone else just as cool or cooler and who maybe even isn't selfish? Just sayin.

Try to put her out of your mind for now, and if she floats back to you then you can try again. But you will be more appealing (to her/others) and better-off mentally and emotionally if you do your best to move on with your own stuff. Good luck bud

 

You sound better than her. Will you go out with me?

[youcanever]

You are hooked on emotionally unavailable women.

 

That is what i do. It is nonsnse and stupid but pain ease. I am not that hurt as before. All i need is acceptance and move on.ı am already movin on, doing great with my job, working out, takin dance classes, reading a lot. Even girls started to seem attractive and started to flirt with them.

 

I am moving on. Just need to find a way to get rid of these little sick thoughts.

[youcanever]

A lot of people think their ex is special especially the dumpee. I get what you are saying. It's a normal process. You haven't accepted it yet. I too at one point thought that my ex was the most beautiful woman. She is smart and nice, and caring. However, there are also some bad traits about her too. I was very angry and pis- off at her after the breakup for what she did. She made other people around us seem like I'm some type of fake person and being insincere. However, that is the past. You must learn to forgive and accept it. I'm over it but sometimes I still have feelings of hatred towards her for what she did. It will subside eventually as well.

 

There are plenty of woman out there. You just have to get them! I know right now you are probably thinking I have to put all the effort into finding a new person again. That is why breaking up with someone is so hard. You get use to doing things together. You may rely on them to do some stuff for you. You miss the companionship and sex. You miss someone to talk to and be there for you. You could always build new memories with a new person. It is only logical.

 

You just described me and my ex and my thought. I am angry to her, it îs not hatred and i am hurt that she didnt care about me even a lil bit. And talked to me i am nothing and the biggest one is she lied to me.

 

I dont think i want her back when i think those days and to be honest i am looking at my single life and i am so happy because now i am free and i can do whatever i want.

 

I am just 23 and life starts now. Started earning money, working out and eating healthy, reading a lot. I love my life.

 

Just i cant accept the fact that she will sleep with someone one day and he wont be me. Hard to accept and hurts a lil.

[supaflyz]

That is good. I'm 28 man. I wish I would of chosen the career I wanted out of high school instead of letting my mom pressure me into pursuing something I didn't want to. I know it's hard to accept the fact that she will be sleeping with someone new. You have to think of it this way though. You might be sleeping with someone new in the future too. The memories will go away.

 

You just described me and my ex and my thought. I am angry to her, it îs not hatred and i am hurt that she didnt care about me even a lil bit. And talked to me i am nothing and the biggest one is she lied to me.

 

I dont think i want her back when i think those days and to be honest i am looking at my single life and i am so happy because now i am free and i can do whatever i want.

 

I am just 23 and life starts now. Started earning money, working out and eating healthy, reading a lot. I love my life.

 

Just i cant accept the fact that she will sleep with someone one day and he wont be me. Hard to accept and hurts a lil.

[youcanever]

That is good. I'm 28 man. I wish I would of chosen the career I wanted out of high school instead of letting my mom pressure me into pursuing something I didn't want to. I know it's hard to accept the fact that she will be sleeping with someone new. You have to think of it this way though. You might be sleeping with someone new in the future too. The memories will go away.

 

These rollercoaster feelings are so weird. Couple of days you feel like "i dont even miss her i dont care her, i dont want her" and one morning you wake up and all good memories come to mind and feel like missing again.

 

But what i realise is that those missy mîssy feelings gets rare and rare and i start to get my life together.

 

That is good feeling.

[youcanever]

Just dismiss it in your head. Say to yourself "Meh! Not my problem." Then replace the thought with something else.

 

I have bouts of insomnia (not related to a break up, I'm just a crap sleeper). One of the things recommended to me when I can't sleep is to replay a favourite movie or TV show in your head. The dialogue, the storyline etc. I have no idea if it works for replacing thoughts of an ex, but it's worth a try.

 

Yes ofcourse it is not my problem. I shouldnt care if she sleep with someone.

 

That is weird that it bother me. Because i was not her first and she slept with someone before me too. So why do i care so much? She îs not an angel. She can do whatever she wants.

 

I will definitely try that replace thought thing you mentioned.

[forgetmenot75]

She is cool for you. I find her normal, a girl with ambitions that it's happy with her own life. Nothing more than that.

You need to stop putting her in a pedestal, she's nothing exceptional, but you opted to see her like that.

[youcanever]

She is cool for you. I find her normal, a girl with ambitions that it's happy with her own life. Nothing more than that.

You need to stop putting her in a pedestal, she's nothing exceptional, but you opted to see her like that.

 

I love you loveshackers for your supports !

 

Seriously!