Franky1988 Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Hello! My high school sweetheart and I dated for 4 years we loved eachother but he was controlling. We were kids!! Throughout these past 20 years he has occasionally popped back into my life to see how I was doing then. I married in 1995 and he married in 2000. In 1999 before he got married he found me and he wanted to say something but never found the courage and left again. When I divorced in 2004 he found me we again spoke and again he would look at me dazed and confused again he would just look at me and would not get up the courage to say what his eyes were saying and again left. Now we are in 2013. I remarried in 2007 and just a little girl in 2013. Now 10 days ago he went to my job and waited outside until I got out it was raining and all of a sudden I hear my name I looked and there he was with a smile. I didn't think anything as he's done this so many times I went to his truck and we spoke for 10 minutes under the rain I had my umbrella. I told him that my father had passed and that I had a baby. He told he his father had passed and he had 2 kids. We exchanged numbers and then the next day he called we spoke for 8 hours where he apologized for everything that had happened and that he has never stopped loving me and that he had made a horrible mistakein his life. So for the past 10 days we have spoken and old feelings have again been lit. He as my first love and no matter what had happen in the past I knew we still loved one another despite anything. He told me that in 99 he came back to talk to me and couldn't find the courage and in 2004 the same thing but that when he saw me this time he said he couldn't lose me again. So now for the past 10 days we have talked and seen eachother to finish our conversation and apologies. He has said that he won't let me go this time and I agree as well however we are both married and Eden though we both are not in love with our mates we don't know how to be honest with them especially because if our children. I am now confused because this is difficult and I do not want to hurt the one I am with and neither does he. Please help as I do not know where to start
Philosoraptor Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 If you both want one another then you both need to get a divorce and give your partners a chance at true happiness with someone who loves them. They both deserve the truth. After that you are free to spend the rest of your lives together, but be honest with everyone involved and let everyone have a chance to start over with someone who is in love with them. 2
courtnee Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 As much as I think you want it to sound like a sweet reunion story, it just sounds bad since both of you are married and have children. You just had a baby! I guess go with your gut though and be able to take a step back and separate your gut feeling with your lustful/puppy love feelings. You say neither of you are in love with your spouses; were you ever? Keep in mind that loopy love drunk feeling fades and all you are left with is a commitment and old feelings. While I believe this love can be rekindled, that takes a lot of work. You will not always feel this way with your ex. I still believe that no matter how old you were an ex is an ex for a reason. It didn't work once, it probably won't work again. But 20 years is still a long time. It sounds icky though considering the circumstances, I'll be honest.
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