robaday Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Its been one year now since me and my ex broke up. Hasnt gone the way I imagined but still.....Im happy with my new self:) Plus': Im learning a foreign language (am on 3rd course now) another two and Im at uni level Im a fitness junkie - learnt mma, play soccer twice a week, swim daily, and can now run 10km (up from 3 a year ago) Am stronger mentally - am no longer stuck in my own thoughts all the time because of a really bad relationship, am there for my friends when they need me Ive since rejected my ex twice - 1st for a booty call, 2nd to even be friends Minus: Self esteem is a big one, she put me down badly repeatedly and showed no remorse, it still hasnt recovered 100% I dont want her back, in fact rejected her twice, but I have never experienced something as damaging as the way things went down betweeen us, i hope i dont have to again I always felt people were good until I met her and Ive lost that basic faith in humanity i once had. Overall I wasnt perfect, Ive learnt a lot this past year, went underground for a long time, not partying just exercising, focussing on myself. Im back among it now, finally just about ready to date. Its been one hell of a journey but I feel Ive grown up a lot this past year and if it helps anyone reading it, it does get better, ya just gotta give it time;) 1
turnerik Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 I want to hate my ex, maybe then I'll stop crying over what we have. I want to hate her for lying to me. She told me we would be back together in two weeks. a lie. She told me to just wait for her and we would be back together. A lie. My ex asked me to not date anyone. I even turned down a gorgeous girls advancing in college. She actually asked me out and I said no. I said no to an amazing girl who I had more in common with than my ex. A few weeks later that girl got a boyfriend and I lost my chance with her. Now my ex won't even talk to me. She deletes me on Facebook, and won't even respond to my one letter I sent her asking for some of my stuff back. I want to hate her, but I can't. I love her too much to hate her. Every song either reminds me of us or our break-up. It's been over 4 months and she is still always on my mind. Sure it's a little less, but she is always there. Everything reminds me of her. The places I'm happiest at, I was happy at with her. I love going to baseball games, but every time I'm there I'm reminded of her. There's times I have to just go away from people because I feel like crying. I'm 20 years old and I can't get over a girl. I still have thoughts of not living. I thought I was over them, but there are still times I don't want to live. I'm not going to hurt myself, but I get depressed I even have those thoughts. I want to re-invent myself because I am moving, but I don't know how. I was told time heals everything, but it hasn't. We dated for 3 1/2 years, had our lives planned together. People who don't know we broke up ask about her all the time. How come you aren't with you girlfriend. I say we broke up, and they go that's too bad, you seemed like the perfect couple. I hear those words in my head everyday now. "The Perfect Couple" I just don't know what to do anymore!
heggs Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Ive been separated 3 weeks now from my ex, and I tell you what I hate her with the passion, I miss her, But not a damn chance I would let her back, cant wait till she has a new BF and she see's the grass isnt greener
alexdublin Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Its been one year now since me and my ex broke up. Hasnt gone the way I imagined but still.....Im happy with my new self:) Plus': Im learning a foreign language (am on 3rd course now) another two and Im at uni level Im a fitness junkie - learnt mma, play soccer twice a week, swim daily, and can now run 10km (up from 3 a year ago) Am stronger mentally - am no longer stuck in my own thoughts all the time because of a really bad relationship, am there for my friends when they need me Ive since rejected my ex twice - 1st for a booty call, 2nd to even be friends Minus: Self esteem is a big one, she put me down badly repeatedly and showed no remorse, it still hasnt recovered 100% I dont want her back, in fact rejected her twice, but I have never experienced something as damaging as the way things went down betweeen us, i hope i dont have to again I always felt people were good until I met her and Ive lost that basic faith in humanity i once had. Overall I wasnt perfect, Ive learnt a lot this past year, went underground for a long time, not partying just exercising, focussing on myself. Im back among it now, finally just about ready to date. Its been one hell of a journey but I feel Ive grown up a lot this past year and if it helps anyone reading it, it does get better, ya just gotta give it time;) I can really relate to your post. I have stopped seeing someone a while back an I have been feeling lots of the things that you have written about. Your post gives me hope. Thank you xx
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