UVict Posted July 29, 2013 Share Posted July 29, 2013 As the title says, my ex has left her women's gym and joined my gym. She told me this a couple of weeks ago when I picked up the last of my stuff and sorted out real estate issues. I went to work out last Friday and half way through my work out I looked aorund the gym and noticed 2 girls that looked familiar, on a second look I realised it was my ex and her best friend. I was a little surprised and shocked. We didn't make eye contact or acknowledge each other being in the same gym. I feel somewhat annoyed that she decided to join my gym, despite it being closer, cheaper etc than her all women's gym. But part of me is annoyed as I have really been getting into the gym since we broke up, it has been my place to get away from a lot of things, and for her to join up and actually see her there is an invasion of that awesomeness I have going there. I went back today, didn't see her but there's always that thought in the back of my mind that she could just turn up - this bothers me. Am I right in feeling like she is invading my space? I don't know about all of this, maybe just a surprise for it to happen so soon, but I still don't like it. Link to post Share on other sites
AllTooWell Posted July 29, 2013 Share Posted July 29, 2013 My ex goes to my gym too. Either join a different gym, or do what I do I know his schedule well (and I'm sure you know the basics of hers.) When she works, etc. if she is a morning or night person. For me, my ex has work every day at 7am-5pm during the week. So I hit the gym during these times to ensure he's not there. On the weekends when he isn't working, I go at 6am because he is not a morning person and I know he wouldn't get up that early. Link to post Share on other sites
alexdublin Posted July 29, 2013 Share Posted July 29, 2013 I think it's fair to be annoyed that she joined your gym. I know that I really have found the gym a place that helped me through my breakup. I would be pissed off if my ex joined for sure. I am just wondering how you can make this work for you? I guess the schedule thing could work. Maybe you could also really focus on going into your own mental zone. Really focused and positive and then perhaps you won't even give ur ex a thought if you do see them. I dunno, worth a shot? Link to post Share on other sites
Author UVict Posted July 30, 2013 Author Share Posted July 30, 2013 Both good points. I guess I was just venting more than anything. Thinking about her schedule (roughly guessing) I realised that she probably has classes Monday-Thursday so nothing to worry about there. The only day I need to be concerned about is Friday, but even then if I can keep focused and in the zone of working out she isn't an issue. I'll see how the following weeks go, since last week was the first time I'd actually seen her, and it was somewhat unexpected. Guess it caught me off guard. Link to post Share on other sites
alexdublin Posted August 6, 2013 Share Posted August 6, 2013 last week was the first time I'd actually seen her, and it was somewhat unexpected. Guess it caught me off guard. i would drop dead if my ex walked into my gym lol good luck, im sure it will work out just fine Link to post Share on other sites
Virgil876 Posted August 7, 2013 Share Posted August 7, 2013 Real men buy free weights. haha But no, if you can't handle it then you need to do something! Link to post Share on other sites
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