GIGS (lOST CAUSE?)

[Mkivsupra]

Hey there everyone just joined the forums. I Am her to heal a bit and jus hoping to hear opinions and hoping this will heal me a bit faster. I was with my ex girlfriend for three years. during our second year together we had our daughter . we were always together and a happy family though i will admit we did have our share of problems, and that was trust. I do live 30 minutes away and whenever we would talk to a person of the opposite sex we would both get jealous. I asked for her hand in marriage around Christmas time. she said yes it was very short lived though. when our relationship was coming to a close end we stared fighting alot more often. she was starting to flirt with a kid that is 4 years younger than him and about two years younger than me, (keep in mind were young as well) anyway i kept seeing she was liking every single picture of him on fb one night but she wasnt responding to my texts or my calls but she kept commenting back and fourth with this kid.the next morning we get in an argument and she doesn't text or call me till nighttime this was when i was calling her like a maniac begging her to not leave me and all i got was "im not leaving you i just need a break" so i kiss her and ask how long the break was and she said 2 weeks she decided to keep the ring. i kept bugging he those two weeks asking her not to leave me. basically losing my mind. for two weeks, i turned completely insane! she then said it was over. I was broken, i went to her house the next morning asking about how this is going to be for our daughter and we talked about it for a bit we kissed hugged basically acting like we were together i then asked her if she wants to eventually come back she can keep the ring if not then ill take it back. she told me she would keep it. but i went to her home again because we planned to go out, she said she didnt want to go anymore and she completely chnaged her mind about the ring.i left her alone for another week came back asking her if she still loved me which to her reply was she didnt (but she was trying not to cry while telling me this . i told her to call me when i got home to which she agreed to, i waited and waited and she never called fast forward another week and i go to her home begging her back again and thats when she finally broke me. she had told me if it wasnt for our daughter she would tell me to **** off! so i walked out the door that night sobbing. i went to see my daughter occasionally but i wasn't emotionally ready. iwould see my ex and want to cry just nervous. I had suicidal thoughts at my home and decided it was time to leave my parents to try new things. i moved closer to my ex and my job so i can see my daughter when i was ready. i stayed complete no contact for about one month i didnt even see my daughter till i thought i was ready. I go to see my daughter one day with my sister with me just in case i would try to do something dumb. but my daughter was asleep. so my ex and my sister talk for a a bit right in front of me my ex was telling my sister how great shes been saying shes been going clubbing ALOT and enjoying her life while ignoring me. didnt look at me or talk to me at all. i left broken yet again.this time i started working out for my stress (helped alot) i stayed away for a bit but started missing my daughter so i would see her and take her to my new apartment. my ex would only let me see her for an hour each time!for about one month it was great i was happy seeing results fast yay insanity!! started to get alot more attention from girls again and just boosting my confidence. yet something was still hurting me, i wasnt over my ex, I wanted her back..but i kept it going and kept trying to work on my self. i started to be happy. but that was because i went no contact for a while. didnt see my daughter during this whole two week period. then i finally contacted my ex (our daughter's birthday was nearing) i asked if i could see my daughter she got angry and we got in an argument of how i never see her and thinks i no longer care for our daughter. telling me she no longer trusts me with my own child. i started to show up more often to see my daughter and my ex finally started talking to me out of the blue making small talk here and there. then i heard many rumorsof my ex telling everyone i dont care for my daughter and i chose the partying life instaed of them. iwas angry and i confronted her of this. she told me none of this was true, and also added " by the way if people say they saw m with a guy its tru but he was just a friend and i will never go out with him again. it got to me because during that convo we talked like freinds for the first time even acting a bit flirty but she kept downtalking this guy she went with. i didnt ask her about it and why would she tell me as if i were to get angry with her about it. fast forward to my daughters birthday i drop off all of my babys gift spoiled as hell lol but it was while my ex was at work i leave to go to a rave with friends the next dayand my ex texts me saying my daughter car didnt work and what not so i told her i would be over to fix it when i come back home from denver. bought my daughter more gifts because she needed clothes, go home to get my tools and end up at my ex's house to fix the car while im fixing it i caught my ex checking me out and finally saying " you look like you lost alot of weight have you been doing insanity?" this caught my attention a bit because only in my facebook did i post that im doing insanity so she obviously has been checking in on my fb, to which i responded "how do you know" she was embarrassed to say and gave saying thanks for the gifts. so now i pickup my daghter more often and my ex even tell me pick her up as much as you like and for as long as like (remeber she didnt let me do this) and now when i go to pick up my daughter my ex always follows me to talk to me when in the past she would avoid eye contact and stay in a separate room. recently my bithday passed and i get a text from her at 1 am wishing me a happy birthday all i said was thanx i go to her house later that day to take my daughter to eat real quick before i go to a concert i drop my daughter off and left the next day i get a text from my ex saying "how was the concert lucky ass" she even kept a converstion with me thru texts whichnever has happened. we have been broken up for 4 months now and im getting better everyday but when my ex starts taling to me alot i start to get confused we are slowly starting to talk again, we have both been single since the break up (have had our fun with others) but still single, she is very close to the kid that she was flirting with when she left me but she is not dating him i know this is long and i do apologize but i need advice... and opinions thanks

[240Zest]

Read the thread I made a couple of weeks ago. Good advice for trying to slowly win back your family. No contact is usually for people without kids. Unless your ex flat out refused to let you see your daughter or you felt like you were a danger mentally then there's no reason to drag your daughter down into this mess. If you want to see your daughter and she wants to see you then definitely do it. Being a good father and being genuinely nice and caring to your daughter will aide in showing your ex that you have changed into a better person. Keep it up as it's gonna take a lot of time and patience.

[Mkivsupra]

UPDATE HELP!!!! so last week my ex texted me "where are you?" then she told me my daughter wanted to see me. BS this was at 1130 pm and i thought she was using my daughter to try n talk to me anyway she calls adn me and my daughter talk for a bit and then my ex said to video chat i didnt i told her i was tired we hung up and she told me she missed me and she is sorry things ended this way all i told her was ey it happens its life things happen for a reason she then went to visit me at work the next day and we talked for a bit . i am confused guys i have been moving on and now this??? and now we havent talked in a week why did she send me this??? why is she doing these things now???