heartbroken29 Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Hi, my gf of 13 yrs left me, she said age wasn't a problem before but now it is. I'm 48, she's 31. yeah she was young. Since she left, she doesn't want to see or speak to me. She slept with someone 2 days after she left me, someone she works with and really doesn't know that well. She texted me yesterday the first time in 3 weeks, asking for her things. Today, she texted me damanding them, and calling me ugly names. This is not the girl I knew. She was always deathly afraid of needles, today on her fb page, she's sporting a nice size tat on her side. Needless to say, the person shes with now has tats all over. Can someone explain to me what is going on???
flitzanu Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Hi, my gf of 13 yrs left me, she said age wasn't a problem before but now it is. I'm 48, she's 31. yeah she was young. Since she left, she doesn't want to see or speak to me. She slept with someone 2 days after she left me, someone she works with and really doesn't know that well. She texted me yesterday the first time in 3 weeks, asking for her things. Today, she texted me damanding them, and calling me ugly names. This is not the girl I knew. She was always deathly afraid of needles, today on her fb page, she's sporting a nice size tat on her side. Needless to say, the person shes with now has tats all over. Can someone explain to me what is going on??? sounds like she decided she doesn't want to be with you anymore, and certainly isn't being graceful about ending such a long relationship. ps - being afraid of needles and getting tattoos is not always a separation...i hate needles and have a lot of tattoos as well.
eleve82 Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Sorry to hear that.. perhaps she is having a "mid life crisis" if she suddenly acts in bizarre ways (compared to what you know to be normal) and feels as if she were missing out on things by being with you. I know my ex did the same things. Or, perhaps she is just showing her true colours. Regardless, you don't want to be with someone who can treat you like this. It must be so difficult to have to go through this at the hands of someone you were with for that long. Keep well and best of wishes. 1
soccerrprp Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Hi, my gf of 13 yrs left me, she said age wasn't a problem before but now it is. I'm 48, she's 31. yeah she was young. Since she left, she doesn't want to see or speak to me. She slept with someone 2 days after she left me, someone she works with and really doesn't know that well. She texted me yesterday the first time in 3 weeks, asking for her things. Today, she texted me damanding them, and calling me ugly names. This is not the girl I knew. She was always deathly afraid of needles, today on her fb page, she's sporting a nice size tat on her side. Needless to say, the person shes with now has tats all over. Can someone explain to me what is going on??? Really not enough from you to tell you what is going on with any confidence. She's considerably younger and is likely looking for more excitement, etc. I'm also willing to bet that she has been with this other guy longer than you think. People say that age is just a number, but it really catches up in one's psyche after a time. She simply wasn't wholly compatible and as you got older, it showed. Can't say much more than that. Sorry.
travelonic Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Sorry to hear that.. perhaps she is having a "mid life crisis" if she suddenly acts in bizarre ways (compared to what you know to be normal) and feels as if she were missing out on things by being with you. I know my ex did the same things. At the risk of throwing this discussion of-topic, not my intent, do tell more.
CarrieT Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 At 31, she is the ripe age for going through her Saturn Return. In short, she is completely changing -- as many do during their 28th through 31st years -- and becoming a different person. It happens to all of us and I hazard to guess it happened to you, OP. It doesn't help you at this point, but the best thing you can do is let her go. She is no longer the person you knew and loved and it is very unlikely she will ever be that person again.
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