barbossa Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Opportunities are there, for both men and women When you see someone that interests you do you have the confidence To approach and talk with them? Stores, metro, Starbucks I on average approach maybe 1 girl every two weeks? Ladies! Men love forward aggressive women don't wait for him to come to you go for it!
HeartDesires Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 When you see someone that interests you do you have the confidence To approach and talk with them? No Ladies! Men love forward aggressive women don't wait for him to come to you go for it! Really?...
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 I did it whenever I wanted to. Some weeks more than others. *shrug*
Phoe Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 I only approach maybe once every year or two. It's like the planets have to align and every variable needs to be perfect lol. it's insanity. 3
fortyninethousand322 Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Saying hi to someone is pretty easy. It's the next several steps that are hard. 1
MrCastle Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Approach meaning, I see a hot girl somewhere in the street, and walk up to her with the sole purpose of trying to get her number? Never. As of yet. But am I social when I go out, personable, and chat up any cute ladies I have a reason to talk to? (Ringing me up in a department store, bringing me my food, standing next to me at a concert, etc) Always. I feel it's more natural that way.
Phoe Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Saying hi to someone is pretty easy. It's the next several steps that are hard. exactly. saying hi, having a friendly little chat, no problemo. Taking that to "hey, I'd like to go on a date with you" just does not bode well for me haha. I'd probably fumble my words, he'd say "sorry, what was that?" and then I'd have to ask AGAIN. nope nope nope 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 exactly. saying hi, having a friendly little chat, no problemo. Taking that to "hey, I'd like to go on a date with you" just does not bode well for me haha. I'd probably fumble my words, he'd say "sorry, what was that?" and then I'd have to ask AGAIN. nope nope nope Change the "he" to "she" and that's exactly how it works with me.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 exactly. saying hi, having a friendly little chat, no problemo. Taking that to "hey, I'd like to go on a date with you" just does not bode well for me haha. I'd probably fumble my words, he'd say "sorry, what was that?" and then I'd have to ask AGAIN. nope nope nope That was always my favorite part! It helps me get in touch with my creative side! I am a huge advocate of getting to the point in the cutest way possible. They always work out, and finding out if they are single or not is pretty easy... Just ask! The worst that can happen is they are taken, then you just say "lucky her!" and farewell! 1
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 I have to add that I am SUPER social though, awkward moments don't exist around me because I don't let them happen. Being a charismatic person has it's perks, learning how to use it is the part that I mastered.
Phoe Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 That was always my favorite part! It helps me get in touch with my creative side! I am a huge advocate of getting to the point in the cutest way possible. They always work out, and finding out if they are single or not is pretty easy... Just ask! The worst that can happen is they are taken, then you just say "lucky her!" and farewell! Hmmmm perhaps i will get creative, never quite thought of that. As long as i don't accidentally weird the guy out, i'm liable to do that haha. startle some poor unsuspecting fellow
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Hmmmm perhaps i will get creative, never quite thought of that. As long as i don't accidentally weird the guy out, i'm liable to do that haha. startle some poor unsuspecting fellow Being sincere is huge! I am naturally a giggly person, and my banter is spot on, if you are witty and can be playful it can be REALLY easy, the only thing most people lack is the confidence! Practice makes perfect! The best part is that with cold approach, you can walk away knowing you will probably never see the person again.
Phoe Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 I have to add that I am SUPER social though, awkward moments don't exist around me because I don't let them happen. Being a charismatic person has it's perks, learning how to use it is the part that I mastered. i'm kind of odd, because i'm very social yet naturally awkward. goober of sorts. not shy at all but definitely awkward turtle. A coworker called me charismatic the other day and I burst out in laughter. Dunno where he got such an idea!! :laugh:
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 i'm kind of odd, because i'm very social yet naturally awkward. goober of sorts. not shy at all but definitely awkward turtle. A coworker called me charismatic the other day and I burst out in laughter. Dunno where he got such an idea!! :laugh: Goobers are cute! Being semi awkward can be used to your advantage, men find it endearing.
MrCastle Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Hmmmm perhaps i will get creative, never quite thought of that. As long as i don't accidentally weird the guy out, i'm liable to do that haha. startle some poor unsuspecting fellow It takes a lot for an attractive girl to weird me out. If an attractive girl hit on me in the street -- I wouldn't care if she was wearing a Michael Myers mask with a Chewbacca suit from the neck down, with a ballerina dress on top of that.
Phoe Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Practice makes perfect! The best part is that with cold approach, you can walk away knowing you will probably never see the person again. This is very very true and I always forget this. If it is a disaster I can walk away and laugh about it later.
MrCastle Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 It takes a lot for an attractive girl to weird me out. If an attractive girl hit on me in the street -- I wouldn't care if she was wearing a Michael Myers mask with a Chewbacca suit from the neck down, with a ballerina dress on top of that. She would take the mask off to talk to me of course. That's how I'd know she was attractive. 1
Phoe Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 It takes a lot for an attractive girl to weird me out. If an attractive girl hit on me in the street -- I wouldn't care if she was wearing a Michael Myers mask with a Chewbacca suit from the neck down, with a ballerina dress on top of that. TBH I'd probably feel a lot more brave if I were to approach you in the street if I was wearing a Michael Myers mask with a chewbacca suit with a tutu on top, crazy as that logic sounds. Once I'm wearing something like that, all inhibitions go out the window. 2
Phoe Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 She would take the mask off to talk to me of course. That's how I'd know she was attractive. this would ruin my uninhibited state :laugh: 1
Southern Cal Dude Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 I used to do it somewhat, then I grew and became a model. I don't approach anymore.
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