My not coping thread

[Hoaks]

Well unfortunately, I just stumbled on one of my many ex's FB profiles. And finally saw some truth. She is back with that moron ex bf. happy photos together. I'm shattered but look at it as a bit more closure. Makes me angry as hell though, her posts on her wall are like a completely different person.

 

I think I will be upset tomorrow about it. But if I ever see her again she will be getting a ear full. I have never ever swore at or yelled at her. But she deserves a ear full. What a lying user

[No_closure]

Well unfortunately, I just stumbled on one of my many ex's FB profiles. And finally saw some truth. She is back with that moron ex bf. happy photos together. I'm shattered but look at it as a bit more closure. Makes me angry as hell though, her posts on her wall are like a completely different person.

 

I think I will be upset tomorrow about it. But if I ever see her again she will be getting a ear full. I have never ever swore at or yelled at her. But she deserves a ear full. What a lying user

 

Wow...I am so sorry. I know nothing anyone can say will make the pain go away. It's her loss though especially if she wants to be with a loser ex bf.

 

I stay off Facebook to protect myself from further pain because I will seriously do something bad if I find him all happy and with another girl. I will die.

[Hoaks]

Wow...I am so sorry. I know nothing anyone can say will make the pain go away. It's her loss though especially if she wants to be with a loser ex bf.

 

I stay off Facebook to protect myself from further pain because I will seriously do something bad if I find him all happy and with another girl. I will die.

 

I know it was a bad move. I just needed some sort of truth. I never got anything from her, nothing just silence.

 

It's weird we are so different, I could never ever do that to another human.

 

I remember a conversation I had with her a week before the end. I sat her down and said you have been distant and out a lot, tell me if you are seeing or interested in another guy. She said my god don't be stupid, you don't think I would break up with you if there was someone else? By the way I couldn't imagine finding anyone else. I said we'll I'm not sure if you would tell me. She looked shocked and didn't like the last comment, but I was right....unfortunately.

[No_closure]

I know it was a bad move. I just needed some sort of truth. I never got anything from her, nothing just silence.

 

It's weird we are so different, I could never ever do that to another human.

 

I remember a conversation I had with her a week before the end. I sat her down and said you have been distant and out a lot, tell me if you are seeing or interested in another guy. She said my god don't be stupid, you don't think I would break up with you if there was someone else? By the way I couldn't imagine finding anyone else. I said we'll I'm not sure if you would tell me. She looked shocked and didn't like the last comment, but I was right....unfortunately.

 

That pisses me off they are such LIARS!!! Every word we believed out of their mouths were LIES!! I asked him about the girl too and he denied and denied. I have no proof just high speculations but obviously he has someone making him happy otherwise he couldn't have moved on so fast and would still need me.

 

I hate how we opened ourseleves up to them and they just don't care. God it hurts so bad.

[Hoaks]

Hi guys,

 

Just wanted to stop by and give a update. Well i feel good, time has definately helped heal. I cant remember how long it has been for me since the breakup, and dont care.

 

I have met some new people, am seeing a really great girl, although im not sure why i cant fall for her. She is really great relationship material, i just cant get there. Hopefully i can. I have been on plenty of dates during this time, but meeting a new group of people to hang out with is what has got me through.

 

I still think about my ex maybe once or twice a day, i miss her a little, but hate her at the same time. She drove passed me today and it brought back some pain for a bit but it went away after about 10 minutes.

 

So everyone going through that hell, time really does help. I'm not 100% but never thought i would be at this stage. Thankyou to this website and all the great people that helped me, listened to me, it really is a saviour this place.

 

I am still staying here though, because im not 100% lol

[Reels]

Hi guys,

 

Just wanted to stop by and give a update. Well i feel good, time has definately helped heal. I cant remember how long it has been for me since the breakup, and dont care.

 

I have met some new people, am seeing a really great girl, although im not sure why i cant fall for her. She is really great relationship material, i just cant get there. Hopefully i can. I have been on plenty of dates during this time, but meeting a new group of people to hang out with is what has got me through.

 

I still think about my ex maybe once or twice a day, i miss her a little, but hate her at the same time. She drove passed me today and it brought back some pain for a bit but it went away after about 10 minutes.

 

So everyone going through that hell, time really does help. I'm not 100% but never thought i would be at this stage. Thankyou to this website and all the great people that helped me, listened to me, it really is a saviour this place.

 

I am still staying here though, because im not 100% lol

Keep it up.

[Hoaks]

Ok now I'm messed up a lot again I found something for this new girl, just as it was getting too late. She was starting to get sick of my coldness and it hit her. She wanted out. I was fighting hard to keep her.

 

Then bang, my ex called me. Private number and my heart sank. Started talking about how sorry she is, that she has a restraining order on the other guy. She was crying and saying how she thought about me every day and hated the fact she ruined me. Basically she is having a hard time and her life is crap.

 

I fell for this, how/why I don't know, maybe because I was going through trouble with my current girl, and needed someone too. I went out for a drink with my ex and it was like old times again ( was broken up with the new girl at the time), flirting, talking and having fun.

 

The next day she goes cold, and said she still had feelings for me but just needed a friend to get through her issues at the moment. I said the more I hung out with her, the more my old feelings were coming back and that I just couldn't do it and end up in a world of pain again. She just said ok. Typical coldness of her. Then she said she'd call me in a couple days.

 

Now during all this the last week, my current girl texts me saying she wants me back. I go back to her, but now my ex is in my head, I miss her already and can't be affectionate with my current girl.

 

And now it's clear, my ex just wanted to clear her guilt really, wants a shoulder to cry on when she needs it, but not be there for me. Just like the relationship. She's done it again, stuffed me up so bad and I'm angry because I thought I was over her, but I would take her back in a heart beat and I hate myself for it .

 

I'm sorry if all that is hard to make sense of, needed to get it out. Life sucks

[Tryingtobegrateful]

Morning is worst for me too.

I thought I had moved on.

And we only spent one month together while I spent 2 months lamenting...I am not sure if it worth it anymore...relationship...I dont ever want to fall in love again

I just remember and start crying

I remember how he called me shallow and scornful and looked down on me after our break-up

I just remember how low I am in his heart

I dont know why I ever deserved that and despite that I still love him...

[Hoaks]

Hi guys

 

I need to get this out. My ex ended up going back to the guy she cheated on me with. We weren't together, but she wanted me to be with her while she got away from this guy. Hated him. She said she wanted him gone, had a interim order on him. He threatens her family, harasses her dad, this guy is relentless. Has been at her the whole time I was with her.

 

Somehow he has charges against her, some assault thing, I'm not sure. She lied to the police in a early interview for it and thinks she is facing time. Load of crap, but she went back to him so he can drop the charges against her. And ditching me in the process. Does not even want to be friends (I can't anyway, I still have feelings for her, god knows why).

 

But, after all this, I'm scared. I'm scared that I really really want to hurt this guy. I'm beyond angry at him. He gets to treat her and everyone like crap, destroy things, threaten lives. But at the end he gets away with it and gets to be happy with her. Whether she wants to be there or not. She called this a "unwanted relationship" to the police.

 

People tell me if she is that weak and gives in to this guy then that's her problem and let her and him be. Why do anything about it that can land me in trouble. I'm finding it really hard to let him get away with this. He's a parasite, no job, no car, nothing but a pot smoker.

 

How do I stop myself from really doing damage to him one night? I'm so full of rage and anger at him now. Not her. I see him manipulative ways. I know it's wrong, that's why I'm venting here, but I'm worried that when I see him, I will end up in jail.

[brokeNlost]

I'm also not coping well. It's been roughly 5 months since my break up. To summarize what happen: one night, my ex and I had a fight and the next thing I knew she wanted out permanently. I made so many compromises to be with her (like stopping hanging out with my friends, colleagues, and family) but when I asked her to compromise just one thing for me, she couldn't even do it. Basically, she gave me an ultimatum saying that if we get married, she didn't want anything to do with my family (they didn't get along well). So we broke up.

 

For days, I was in a messed struggling to finish school and dealing with my heartache. To make things worse, I found out that she met another guy 1 day after we broke up and a week later they dated. For the next following weeks, she would continue to leave me breadcrumbs telling me she still loved me but won't leave her new bf because she didn't want to hurt his feelings. Through out the whole week she would compare and contrast me and him to see who she likes better (even though she wouldn't admitted it) and guessing from the result, she preferred to be with him. I couldn't take the emotional roller-coaster ride she put me on. So I went into NC to save myself from more pain. However, even in NC, she managed to pull me into more drama. Apparently, she and her new bf started to argue and of course she would use me as a scapegoat to save their relationship, subsequently blaming everything on me. Ever since then (which was 2 months ago) I haven't heard anything from her which is probably a good thing. Despite everything she did to me I still have some lingering feeling of love for her which is so wrong because I felt so pitiful and pathetic for still wanting to be with someone who have no desire to be with me.

So trust me OP when I tell you I know exactly how you feel. It gets somewhat better with time but I'm still hurting.

Edited February 12, 2014 by brokeNlost