Earthlings Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 First post here, sharing with you guys what happened awhile ago. My girlfriend and I just had a mutual breakup, we were together for a little over a year now. We've always enjoy each other's company and love spending time together. However, we always seems to argued when we're deciding something important. About a week ago, after another argument, I had a sudden realisation. I felt that all this while, we've never really resolve our arguments and that those disagreement that we had are piling up. We had very different outlook on life and I can't see a future where we'll be able to compromise peacefully. I felt lost and confused since then, questioning myself if we're even suitable to be with each other. So after all the running-away, we finally talked about it and she cried her eyes out. Even though we loved each other, she too felt that we wouldn't be able to resolve our difference and that I would be happier being with someone else. So she suggest that we broke up and I agreed. We managed to put aside everything and had one last date as a couple, before we part ways. I was overwhelmed with so much emotion that I broke down afterwards. I felt horrible, she's much much stronger than me & her love is way more than I could imagine. I felt terrible as a person, I've only thought about what's best for myself. I hated myself for the selfishness and the pain I inflicted on her. I'm sorry if I hasn't make myself very clear, but I hope for some advice on this. I don't know if what I'm doing is for the best or I'm just a complete *******. P.s. we'll have to see each other quite often due to being in the same college
Luccinar Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 Sounds my break up. Exactly creepily like it. Except I'm the girl and I did it for him and then we ****ed it up right before I left the country, horrible words were exchanged....not normal horrible (insults swearing nothing like that) just cold horribleness and now I'm in hell grieving in a forgine country. The advice if give you is cut it clean and kind, don't let it drag on. That's when all hell breaks loose. A clean cut coupled with kindness from both parties and then maybe you can reconcile in the future...don't do what I did :-( the finality of it is awful.
JDPT Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 This is a perfect example of lack of communication in a relationship. I can certainly resonate as this was one of the reasons my ex dumped me. I made the mistake of allowing our issues to pile up without resolving them. I towards the end shut down and I guess she realized we were reaching the end and put us out of our misery. Communication is imperative, assumptions do not exist in a relationship, being one with your loved one is crucial. I have learned my lesson the hard way and do not intent to make the same mistake again.
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