teamorion Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 (edited) So I have been dating the love of my life for just over two years now. I am the first serious relationship he has been in , but I was with someone for 6 years before him and someone else for 2 yrs so serious relationships are all I know. We are perfect together except for the fact that hecdoesnt seem to want to talk about my feelings. We dont have sex he doesnt flirt with we or joke or touch me for that matter.It has been a struggle for the past year lots has happened that I feel stronger as an individual because he always leaves me alone to cry or deal with problems or feelings. He has made many promises to try to open up to try to talk to me but every time his opportunity is there he just lets me down. I have been completely open with all this told him everything so many times in soooooo many ways been nothin but honest. He says that one day he will be able to be there for me but its been 2 years. I recently had to put my cat I had for 13 years down and we wend up fighting about it every weekend ill be crying cuz I miss here and he will literally sit there in silence. I have went through a lot in life ...like a lot.... and I am old enough to realise that im fine but itd be nice to have someones opinion or thoughts or feelings expressed to open mine up...and with him he has never had one bad fu c ki n thing happen to him so thats his excuse as to why he doesnt deal well with conflict....but u think something would have been learned by now. Should I just get off this emotional rollercoaster I feel pathetic begging someone to care about my feelings even resorting to posting on here should let myself know how beyond repair our relationshio is...really a stranger is going to make more effort on this thread to talk to me than his sorry a s s Edited July 28, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Add paragraphs
white Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Literally nothing you said sounds like the love of your life. I can't move beyond that aspect. You described a totally non functional relationship that anyone would leave with the quickness as the love of your life. If you don't qualify that and explain how you can possibly consider it so, you will only get the 100% unanimous advice here to leave him at the speed of light. 2
soccerrprp Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 (edited) You deserve much better. You know that. This is unacceptable behavior and not supportive. You're pissed about it and if things don't change in some form, you will be miserable. Life is fricken' too short to tolerate this. Edited July 28, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Remove quote
hoping2heal Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 I'm sorry, but I think you're dating Dexter Morgan. Well, this guy seems incapable of empathizing with you and he's doing nothing to meet your physical and emotional needs for sexual intimacy. He's just being himself and he isn't interested in changing who that is. You need to find someone who is actually compatible with you and stop chasing a dead end.
Ami1uwant Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 I agree with others....this cant be the love of your life. It sounds as if he has Aspergers given his lack of empathy and other parts of this relationship.
bentleychic Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Literally nothing you said sounds like the love of your life. I can't move beyond that aspect. You described a totally non functional relationship that anyone would leave with the quickness as the love of your life. If you don't qualify that and explain how you can possibly consider it so, you will only get the 100% unanimous advice here to leave him at the speed of light. I couldn't agree more. I'm sorry.
Author teamorion Posted July 28, 2013 Author Posted July 28, 2013 Thank you all for the replies I appreciate it
sdraw108 Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Time to move on. You'll find a guy who won't be like this.
aussietigerwolf Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Literally nothing you said sounds like the love of your life. I can't move beyond that aspect. You described a totally non functional relationship that anyone would leave with the quickness as the love of your life. If you don't qualify that and explain how you can possibly consider it so, you will only get the 100% unanimous advice here to leave him at the speed of light. I agree as well. it doesn't even seem to me that he even likes you really.
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