showdown173 Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Hey everyone, I need some opinions about a situation that I am in. I had been dating a girl for almost 3 years, until recently she confessed to me that a few weekends ago, she had drinks and then proceeded to have sex with a coworker. I was destroyed. Now I'm starting to get over it, but a few days ago she texted me asking if we could be friends. I knew I still had physical attraction to her, and I still wanted to have sex with her, so I asked her if we could be FWB. She agreed,saying that she was also physically attracted to me, but we have yet to meet up/see each other since that conversation took place. I personally think that this would be okay, since I promised myself that I would not develop any feelings for her or take her back being that I can never forgive her for what she did to me. Also, maybe if our romantic relationship didn't work out, our relationship as FWB would suit us better. What do you guys think I should do? Would this be okay just for no strings attached, casual sex? Or should I simply cut ties with her for good? Help me out! Thanks!
NasalFloss Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 I wouldn't. It could get messy. Even if you think you've got over it there is a chance of you becoming emotionally involved, strung along and then crushed again. Best to move on and invoke NC.
Zahara Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 You were destroyed when she told you she slept with someone else? Means you're still emotional. FWB doesn't work that way. It's a phukk and go arrangement. If you can P&G, wake up the next day and feel nothing. Sure. If you can P&G, and know that she slept with someone else two days ago. Sure. Only you know how you feel.
Bozena Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 I doubt it can work so soon. it is almost impossible for you to forget the girl that you have been dating for 3 years. In my mind it seems that you believe that by being FWB you will get her back. Most of the times it doesn't work though. But you are a man and she is a woman which means she is more emotional than you and easily affected. If I were in your shoes I wouldn't because as other people pointed out you will end up getting hurt
flitzanu Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 is she still going to be banging her coworker while you are banging her too?
UVict Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 I wouldn't go there, especially so soon. I tried this with my ex, worst thing ever. I said the same thing at the time that I was just getting sex, but we both had more than just sex. We hung out kinda went on dates, and as much as I wanted to say I was there for the free/easy sex I was still quite emotional inside, especially when I could see/hear her talking to other guys (long distance).
Miss_raptor Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Don't do it. FWB arrangements are hard enough to navigate when it's just two friends with no history. One of you is going to get hurt, and it seems most likely to be you in this case.
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