PinkDotsXOXO Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 I have recently starting talking to a new guy. We met online and after a week of talking, we met up in person. Today I realized I have only known this guy for 12 days even though it feels much longer! One thing about him is he is always really busy and can usually only talk in the evenings. Before we met, we'd talk at least an hour or so on the phone or through texts. Now that we've met, we now only do usually short little texts here and there in the evening but we do that almost every single day. At the moment, he's at an all weekend festival in our area which gets pretty packed and crazy so I've really only heard from him once. The night i met him I felt such a connection with him. The way he looks at me, the way I feel when I look at him I have never ever felt this way even with my ex of seven years. Due to all of this I did something I have never done in my life and slept with him upon the first night of meeting him. It didn't happen till hours after we had been hanging out and it kinda just happened naturally. He still texted me the next day saying he had a great time etc. When we hung out he said he likes me and wants a relationship once we get to know each other better. Thursday I asked him if he wanted to hangout this week which he replied with "hell yeah that sounds like fun". Idk if he's really just that busy or not into me and is playing games. I really don't want to sleep with him again until we are seroius. I just don't know if it's a good idea to go forward with this or how to put the brakes on sleeping with someone if you already have. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you in advanced!
Mascara Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Here's the thing. You can't unring a bell. Holding off until you're serious is something many men are used to. But sleeping with him and THEN not doing so again until you're serious doesn't make you look like a Nice Girl. It makes you look like a game player. It's no good, in words or deeds, trying to make him think you're not the kind of girl who sleeps with a man on the first date. He already knows you are. The persona you should show now is a girl who is passionate, loved the sex and has totally no regrets. 2
ToyStoryThree Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 I have recently starting talking to a new guy. We met online and after a week of talking, we met up in person. Today I realized I have only known this guy for 12 days even though it feels much longer! One thing about him is he is always really busy and can usually only talk in the evenings. Before we met, we'd talk at least an hour or so on the phone or through texts. Now that we've met, we now only do usually short little texts here and there in the evening but we do that almost every single day. At the moment, he's at an all weekend festival in our area which gets pretty packed and crazy so I've really only heard from him once. The night i met him I felt such a connection with him. The way he looks at me, the way I feel when I look at him I have never ever felt this way even with my ex of seven years. Due to all of this I did something I have never done in my life and slept with him upon the first night of meeting him. It didn't happen till hours after we had been hanging out and it kinda just happened naturally. He still texted me the next day saying he had a great time etc. When we hung out he said he likes me and wants a relationship once we get to know each other better. Thursday I asked him if he wanted to hangout this week which he replied with "hell yeah that sounds like fun". Idk if he's really just that busy or not into me and is playing games. I really don't want to sleep with him again until we are seroius. I just don't know if it's a good idea to go forward with this or how to put the brakes on sleeping with someone if you already have. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you in advanced! He seems like he's into you, it doesn't seem as if he's done anything to make you question his intentions. Just carry on as normal, do neutral things like going out on dates and hold off on the sex for a while.
RebelWithoutACause Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 How long ago did you meet/sleep together? Has he made any attempts to see you since then? I wouldn't get my hopes up about this leading anywhere if I were you. It's not impossible but not very likely. Looks like he's doing a slow fade, where he'll contact you less and less, not make any serious efforts to see you, etc. If he does arrange to get together again, be careful you don't turn into a booty call, because this is one possible scenario he could be planning. 1
SantistaUSA Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Sleeping with someone on the first date is never a good idea. I know everyone is different but whenever I slept with the girl on the first date I would lose all interest for a serious relationship and would end up being more of a booty call than anything else. If you guys go out again, don't sleep with him, make sure that you don't go to each other's place for the next date so he doesn't feel you trying to avoid it.
Author PinkDotsXOXO Posted July 28, 2013 Author Posted July 28, 2013 Hey everyone thanks so much for your advice! I hung out with him this past Tuesday (the 23rd). Just heard from him after I sent him a picture of my outfit. He said he's out with his niece and that I it was a cute picture. I told him we should talk later if he has time and all he said was "K". Doesn't look so promising but I appreciate everyone's input!
Author PinkDotsXOXO Posted July 28, 2013 Author Posted July 28, 2013 We agreed to meet up sometime this week. Not sure when yet...
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