Sanctionne Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 I was in NC for exactly 2 weeks. I had been feeling pretty good considering, which is very unlike me after being dumped. Over the past couple of wks I noticed the ex trying to get close to my friend via FB, which he's never done before. I thought he was trying to get my attn., but I ignored it. Then this past wk there he is LIKING my FB posts and going on and on w/all of these depressing posts about being lonely blah blah... It was a constant thing that I was seeing. So yesterday a mutual friend posted something which was exactly what had ended our relationship, the ex made yet another depressing comment & then another one. However that last comment made me realize that it wasn't me he was missing, it was his ex before me. So I broke NC just to confirm and feel like ****! ... I just don't understand why he's all up in my friends and my pg screaming for attn if he is missing his ex? I guess I was just the rebound and didn't realize it until now. </3 p.s... if you have nothing nice to say, please do not say anything at all. I have been nothing but compassionate and caring to ppl that are on this site for the very same reason. They've had there heart broken and have nowhere else to turn. I don't need to be attacked on here as well. I just need someone to talk to. Thank you >.<
Author Sanctionne Posted July 28, 2013 Author Posted July 28, 2013 I contacted him because while we were together and the reason our relationship ended was because of a comment he made to me which was that the only reason he was w/me was because his ex wouldn't take him back. That was one of the most hurtful things anyone has ever said to me and of course I was crushed by that comment and became jealous of his ex and eventually blew up on him because of it. No one wants to know that they're not your 1st choice.... So I made contact because over the past 2 weeks here I thought he was missing me, trying to get my attn., when all along it wasn't me he was missing and I just had to confirm so that I could stop hoping.
ToyStoryThree Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 I contacted him because while we were together and the reason our relationship ended was because of a comment he made to me which was that the only reason he was w/me was because his ex wouldn't take him back. That was one of the most hurtful things anyone has ever said to me and of course I was crushed by that comment and became jealous of his ex and eventually blew up on him because of it. No one wants to know that they're not your 1st choice.... So I made contact because over the past 2 weeks here I thought he was missing me, trying to get my attn., when all along it wasn't me he was missing and I just had to confirm so that I could stop hoping. Really? What a CRUEL thing to say to someone. If he is that heartless, he is not worth your time at all. But now that you do know, you must block him on EVERYTHING. Seeing him on FB is not really going to help, is he on your friends list? 2
Author Sanctionne Posted July 28, 2013 Author Posted July 28, 2013 Yes. He I removed him as a friend and blocked him. I still don't understand why he was all up on my FB and my closest friends if he didn't miss me? But it is what it is. He of course had tried to apologize, saying that he didn't mean what he said. But the comment was burned in my memory and I couldn't let it go. Very sad considering that we had been friends for yrs., had a thing for each other for yrs. Then when we finally get together after him leaving his ex, who he was only with for a few months and lived across the country, only met up w/her once could have his heart and not me. Feeling pretty worthless right now. Thank you for being so kind and for your response. 1
Bozena Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Wow! At least he was honest. I mean it is a real cruel thing to say to your girlfriend and you were very compassionate. If I were in your shoes I would have already deleted him and banned him. He does you more harm than good. I don't know why he did that. Doesn't he have friends on his own? How old is he? 1
Nicoleiia Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 That comment was awful. I was also the rebound that got dumped. The worst part is that you don't see it coming because you didn't know you were the rebound. Relationships suck. Anyways, please DO NOT break NC again. Just try to forget about him and move one; he is a douchebag who doesn't deserve you anyways. Let him pine over his dumb ex. 2
Author Sanctionne Posted July 28, 2013 Author Posted July 28, 2013 Wow! At least he was honest. I mean it is a real cruel thing to say to your girlfriend and you were very compassionate. If I were in your shoes I would have already deleted him and banned him. He does you more harm than good. I don't know why he did that. Doesn't he have friends on his own? How old is he? Thank you for the response. He is 35. Yep, this is coming from a 35 yr old man and he does have a lot of friends who've actually said I was the best thing that ever happened to him. Which I know to be true. I was very good to this man. Not sure what he was trying to accomplish by hitting up my friends and trying to get my attn. But I just can't care anymore.
Author Sanctionne Posted July 28, 2013 Author Posted July 28, 2013 Thank you all for the responses. I greatly appreciate it. It's not the easiest thing loving someone that flat out told you that they loved & miss someone else.
Author Sanctionne Posted July 28, 2013 Author Posted July 28, 2013 So, you realise that whilst he can access your social media to like your posts, you are not NC, right? NC is a full-on block of all methods of communicating with you. That includes hiding or deleting mutual friends to sever the connection until you are healed/in a new relationship/back together with him. You need to delete/hide all connections with him in order to heal. 2 weeks is nothing - you haven't even hit the 2 month hump yet, where day 60ish, feels like day 1. Re-establish NC and stick with it. He is now blocked. I cannot see any of his posts/profile, it's as if he doesn't have a FB pg. In addition, I don't even see why he'd try to communicate w/me if he made it very clear that I was not the one he was missing. Again, very odd since it seemed like he was screaming for my attn. I owe it to myself not to break NC again. Clearly he doesn't care for me, so I need to do the same and eventually find someone that will appreciate me. Thank you >.<
Talulah Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Thank you for the response. He is 35. Yep, this is coming from a 35 yr old man and he does have a lot of friends who've actually said I was the best thing that ever happened to him. Which I know to be true. I was very good to this man. Not sure what he was trying to accomplish by hitting up my friends and trying to get my attn. But I just can't care anymore. Sounds a lot like my ex, he's around that age.
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